The Chick Whisperer Podcast

Co-Host Dana Shergill (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/dana) My guest refers to herself as a 'kinky wellness coach', and she's quite sure most of us as humans are a lot naughtier, sexier and yes--even kinkier--than we give ourselves credit for, let alone admit. So with that in mind, you can already guess that Dana Shergill is outspoken, unashamed and downright unoffendable. And that combination always makes for a great show, especially when we're welcoming a female guest. So on with it, then...what does a kinky wellness coach actually do for a living? What does Dana mean when she says kinkiness is an outlet for aggression, imagination and attention? Why is that so important? And wait a minute...isn't 'aggression' a dangerous term to use when applied to men and sexuality? Meanwhile, when it comes to sex, does any flavor other than vanilla classify as 'kinky'? And can it possibly true that women are every bit as naughty and potentially kinky as men are? If so, what's holding them back from expressing it? Pornogr

Co-Host Ryland Hormel (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/hormel) My guest made the bold decision to emerge from post-Covid Northern California on a two-year quest to both experience true freedom and capture it both on film and in print. After talking first-hand to hundreds of people, the end result is his new book When Do You Feel Free?: Voices Across America. Ryland Hormel joins me on this episode for a man-to-man discussion on how we as men tend to define freedom. But wait...is that how we should define freedom? How have men's views on freedom changed within the last generation or so? Truth be told, many men haven't just simply lost their sense of freedom, they've begun to wonder if freedom is even what they really want. So how about it, then...when DO you feel free? What exactly is Ryland's 'freedom equation'? What does Ryland mean when he claims 'freedom as a feeling'? How is freedom integrally related to choice? Why is overcoming fear so important to feeling free? If we as men tell ourselves we're not allow

Co-Host John Lovell (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/warrior) My guest John Lovell is well-known to many as The Warrior Poet, a Special Forces vet known and loved both for his 2A advocacy and his equally formidable dad jokes. One of the many subtopics of his new book, The Warrior Poet Way, is how today's post-modern men can benefit from returning to ancient wisdom. According to John, that's where we'll find both practical answers to portraying masculinity as well as primal elements of sexual attraction. Tune in as we discuss how wisdom, strength, and significance are old-school masculinity, dating back to primal roots. Why exactly has society been neutered, apparently absolving men from the need to provide and protect? Why is today's emerging masculinity movement so compartmentalized? What is the real reason men and masculinity are under scrutiny whereas femininity isn't? What is the deeper significance of fatherhood--and even of leaving a legacy--that many men miss? John celebrates the need for men to be 'dan

Co-Host Nic Long (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/nic) My guest is 2-time USA Olympian Nic Long, who happens to have made his name in the sport that's nearest and dearest to our hearts here at Casa McKay. That's BMX racing, of course...and Nic happens to be my first-ever BMX related guest. So why now, at episode 362? Well, IMAO there is no better example than BMX of an environment where the older, respected experts tend to give so much back to the younger kids. And after a survey I took online, I was thrilled when Nic was voted one of the most influential pros out there in this area. As such, there's absolutely no better man to help cover this all-important topic that has been on my radar screen for a couple of years now. So...when you become a father and have kids, you instinctively give back to them. But we as men tend to have a yearning inside to also give back beyond the four walls of our own homes, especially to the younger generation. After all, every one of us who successfully grew up to be adult men wh

Co-Host Emily McKay (https://www.deservewhatyouwant.com) Every couple thinks and behaves differently. You've probably thought and behaved differently depending on which woman was your girlfriend at a particular time in history. But for sure there are, well...'standards' that tend to rule any polite, public conversation about how men and women typically are when they're a couple, and what's 'normal'. So then, what IS 'normal'? Is there really such a thing? And if so, is that really what's BEST in a particular relationship...especially for YOU and your significant other? After all, sometimes 'normalcy' is unhappy. What kind of feelings should a couple have for each other? Can initial attraction and 'chemistry' possibly be a bad or dangerous thing, as some so-called experts say? On the other hand, is there any merit to the idea of 'learning to love each other'? And how do 'normal' couples behave? Is it healthy to 'fight', as some dating coaches have suggested? Or should you always be 'shiny and happy' instead? S

Co-Host Justin Stenstrom (http://mountaintoppodcast.com/elitelife) It's absolutely true that men don't worry about aging, nor do we care how we look nearly as much as women. But then, we hear from older women about how they're looking for younger men nowadays...all because men their own age are tired, cranky, sick and drink too much. Well, my returning guest is the Elite Man himself, Justin Stenstrom, who nowadays talks more holistically about Elite LIFE in general than simply Elite Manhood. Even though Justin is a bit younger than I am, he had already been getting weird symptoms and scary health warnings...all without even knowing where they were coming from. And here's the thing. Once we as men start down that path of apathy toward our health, we have less energy and get more depressed. As you may already know, that leads to a vortex of physical and psychological destruction that often leads to an early grave. And yet, because we're men, we'll rarely ask for help. We'll also let symptoms get worse and worse

Co-Host Steve Favis (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/robot) With all the talk about AI nowadays, it's inevitable that our focus turns to the concept of augmenting--or even replacing--relationships with women with relationships with robots. After all, your robot lover will never cheat on you, refuse sex, or be emotionally needy...let alone abusive. There would be no complaining about how much you drink and how much time you spend with your friends video gaming. And as an added bonus, 'she' will even clean your house, do the laundry and make you a sandwich. As much of a MGTOW paradise as this sounds, is this a good thing? Our instincts tell us not, even though the aforementioned benefits seem like an easy-button bonanza. So what's the deal? Are we just resistant to potential change, or should we listen to our instincts? My guest, Steve Favis, not only runs a robotics company, he holds the major US patents for humanoid robots and has already been actively building them for several years now. For starters, he's he

Co-Host Antonio Neves (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/antonio) After a long career in television media, my guest co-host Antonio Neves now runs groups for men. He is also the author of Stop Living On Autopilot. Tony had the 'highlight reel' lifestyle on social media, but in reality his life was a mess...and headed south. He may have continued on that trajectory, except he got a break...he found and joined a community of men. How is such a community of men life-changing? And why is it different than going out and getting a beer with a buddy? What does Tony mean when he says, 'You need a man to call you up instead of calling you out'? Why is getting advice from an anonymous Internet group not nearly as valuable and effective as meeting with a much smaller group of guys in real life? What is the somewhat 'hidden' psychological barrier that tricks men out of building alliances and relationships with other dudes? Is there a specific reason why we can't count on our wives and girlfriends to meet the same need in ou

Co-Host Mike Domitrz (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/respect) It seems whenever you turn on the tv or get on social media, someone is complaining again because they feel disrespected. Often the context is men and women feeling slighted--or even wronged--by the other gender. So how about it...do we have a respect problem between men and women nowadays? If so, what contributed to that? Well, my returning guest Mike Domitrz (rhymes with 'Amish') is no respecter of persons when it comes to one gender's claim of disrespect over another. Instead, he respects EVERYONE, and the first order of business in this episode is to explain WHY. And yes, you can indeed rest assured that this is not going to be another man-bashing parade. In fact, it's quite the opposite. By the end of this episode you'll not only emerge empowered to respect women without getting bulldozed, but also BE respected by those very same women. What's reasonable for a man to expect in terms of sexual respect from a woman? What is the one tendency in h

Co-Host Polina Solda (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/pyramid) The term "Mr. Right" is typically used by women, isn't it? But let's face it, if you're a man who wishes to deserve what he wants, that means in order to get the woman who's right for you into your life, you're going to also have to be the man who's right for her. My returning guest is dating coach for women extraordinaire Polina Solda, who brings back both her considerable wisdom and her Russian accent for your listening pleasure. And in the long and storied tradition of Russian straightforward opinion, she begins by--in her words--"destroying" the biggest myth out there when it comes to being "Mr. Right". Next, she presents the toolkit she uses for determining personality and relationship style, especially as it pertains for gaining insight into the kind of partner we are most attractive to and compatible with. Interestingly enough, it was developed by the Soviets, and therefore practically unknown to the Western world. So what does Polina have t

Co-Host Elliott Katz (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/katz) My returning guest is the author of several books for both men and women on relationships, especially pertaining to long-term success. He's the right guy to help cover an important topic that has been on my radar screen for a long time now, which is being the patriarch of one's family. What does that even mean? And does it necessarily have to be tied to the negative Feminist stereotype of 'The Patriarchy'? Could it be that most red-blooded women really WANT you to be the leader of your family...even your extended family? We know men should provide and protect, but what is the caveat to that if you really want to be respected by your family? Why is it so many men can be leaders at work, but fail at being the leader at home? As it turns out, there are undeniable traits and characteristics of a true family patriarch. What are they? On the other hand, how do perfectly good, decent men take themselves out of the running for being the family patriarch, even

Co-Host Robbie Kramer (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/kramer) 'Instagram has become such a phenomenon in dating, that if you're a single guy and not using it, it's really, really hard to compete.' That's a quote from my returning guest and dating expert Robbie Kramer, who has enough social media expertise to know. But wait a minute, is this about competing with thousands of other schmucks for the attention of bikini-clad IG 'influencers' with hundreds of thousands of followers? Truth be told, it's more about YOUR Instagram posts. And even if you don't have thousands of followers, there's a right way to use the platform, and it's counter-intuitive for most men. The hint there is attempting to use Instagram as a dating app in and of itself would usually be a HUGE mistake. So then, what should you do with IG instead? What can a man do to break through all the noise on Instagram and get the right attention from the right kind of women? How do you use it to build your social circle and your personal power, not jus

Co-Host Kimmy Seltzer (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/seltzer) My returning guest is a style consultant and a dating strategist, so who better to join me for this long-overdue show about how to make a brilliant first impression? Well, it might surprise you, but Kimmy Seltzer hasn't always been the queen of style. In fact, like many of us, she went through a devastating breakup that sent her into the doldrums. It was only after what I jokingly renamed her 'moment of redress' that she realized how far just a little bit of self love could go. Nowadays, of course, she's all about empowering others to make a big splash when meeting others. Kimmy explains how she went from thinking 'inside out' as a therapist to giving due credit to working from the 'outside in' as well. Is it really so bad to compare a good first impression to product marketing? What is 'enclothed cognition'...and is it anything like 'costumed confidence'? What's the one thing you can do that's not only fall-out-of-bed easy, but actually FUN to ma

Co-Host Peter McGraw (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/solo) Two episodes ago, we talked about how society is apparently keeping us single. This time, Dr. Peter McGraw returns to ask what's necessarily wrong with that? Even though more than fifty percent of American adults are single, there's still somehow a stigma associated with it. However, Peter isn't only among that majority of single adults, he's happily unhitched. And if you think about it, if the stereotype about us as men is how we go out of our way to avoid marriage, where's the bad rap coming from? Well, prepare for some shocking news from Peter, because despite his own personal optimism, most singles even nowadays really do wish they were in a relationship. Or do they only think they wish they were in a relationship? How can we know the difference as pertaining to our own life? And if it's true we happen to be in the relative minority who actually want to stay single, how do we go about living that dream the way Peter does? So, is marriage really a

Co-Host Emily McKay (https://www.deservewhatyouwant.com) You hear the term 'power couple' quite a bit, but what exactly does it mean? We know one when we see one, for sure. But is it necessarily a good thing? Would we want to team up with our WAGs to BE one? If so, how do we BECOME one? Well, let's first get this out in the open: I'm not sure whether my wife Emily and I are indeed a 'power couple' or not, especialy after this conversation...as entertaining and informative as it was. So then, how about it? What kind of 'power' are we talking about here, anyway? What does it take for a couple to add up to more than the sum of their individual parts? What are the actual, real-world traits of a 'power couple'? Can a couple be a 'power couple' simply by acting like one, or does that distinction have to be earned...if not bestowed upon them by others? What are the different ways can a couple indeed be powerful? Doesn't the expectation to be a 'power couple' put a lot of pressure on spouses, especially if one wants

Co-Host Dr. Scott Yenor (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/revolution) My returning guest is the ever-controversial professor at Boise State University and now Senior Director of State Coalitions for Claremont Institute. Exactly 100 shows ago, he and I threw down what has become one of the most cited episodes in the catalog...on the pressures facing men, the family and even sexual procreation in this culture. This long-anticipated follow-up covers the social factors that may be keeping you single instead of dating and relating to women. As you well know, we're not about whining and victimhood around here. So the tone of this episode is more about empowering you to navigate the current societal roadblocks than merely complaining. Right off the bat, Scott proclaims that our civilization is straight-up broken, and the reasons for that are complicated. But he's forthright in saying the very sexual dance between men and women appears to be breaking down, and offers clear reasons why. How has emphasizing career and fi

Co-Host Sydney Richdale (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/sydney) Among your favorite guests are the various female sex advice instructors I've had on the show over the years, most several times. Well, this time I'd like to introduce you to a brand new one. Sydney Richdale is all about making sex as much fun as possible, so it's no wonder that's her absolute favorite subject to talk about. Needless to say, you should plan on LOTS of fun this time. To kick things off, Sydney wonders aloud how we can live in such a hyper-sexualized culture, yet there's still so much shame, drama and pain whenever it comes up in conversation. That leads to a frank discussion on the truth of how much women love sex, even though so many men refuse to believe that. Where do guys tend to mess up the most when it comes to attracting women sexually? And what are some of the perhaps counter-intuitive ways men can be more sexually attractive to women? What presumptions do we make about women that really hamstring us psychologically when t

Co-Host Dr. Gleb Tsipursky (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/hybrid) Men and women have been meeting each other through computers for ages now, of course. But during the pandemic we were actually told to stay away from each other IRL and focus on 'Zoom dating', remember? For better or worse, even now people are still not leaving the house to socialize. Many are still even complaining about having to leave the house to go to work. All of this may not be optimal for real, actual interpersonal socialization...but it's what most people want. So, according to my good friend Dr. Gleb Tsipursky, we'd better stop fighting it and start getting used to it. And here's the thing...that means our classic ideas regarding masculine leadership and even attracting women have GOT to adapt. Men who do so successfully will win, while those who don't will be left in the dust. So then, you can see just how important this topic really is, even as NOBODY else seems to be discussing it. First off, in-person everything is trying to be r

Co-Host Susan Winter (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/winter) My returning guest Susan Winter is one of the deepest thinkers in the world of dating and relationship advice, and she's almost always right on the money when she talks about how men and women relate to each other. Despite the somewhat dark topic, this episode turned out to be a lot more fun than expected. Listen in as Susan talks about how different social trends and pressures have conspired to make meeting a woman who is right for you more difficult than ever before in human history. So how did we get to this point where it's so weird and complicated out there? Wait until you hear Susan's original (and IMO spot-on) take about that. How has the Internet changed the way we date in ways that go above and beyond merely related to online dating and apps? And how did the pickup artist movement have a ripple effect well into our current reality...in ways that are both positive and not so much? How did the era of selfhood and conspicuous consumption in th

Co-Host Jack Schafer (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/truth) Couldn't we use just a little truth nowadays? It's simultaneously frustrating and yet one of my favorite subjects. So who better than my returning guest Jack Schafer to talk about how to get to the bottom of things in this day and age? After all, not only did Jack work as an FBI interrogator for years, he has literally written the book on how to detect truth. So to get started, I ask Jack if we're less truthful overall as a culture nowadays, or is it simply that the proliferation of media and social media makes it seem that way? What is up with people who back down from the truth even in the face of a lie? And what is 'Insta-win', as Jack calls it? How does the press use the concept of 'primacy' to influence how people perceive truth? What is going on with our education system that's directly influencing a 'truth avoidant' culture? And how are universities actually making it worse...even when they're supposed to be teaching young people how to think?