The Chick Whisperer Podcast

Co-Host Jonathon Aslay (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/aslay) My guest is fellow dating coach Jonathon Aslay, who conveniently enough for the topic at hand lives in Beverly Hills, CA. He's a good guy, and a smart one too, but he and I disagree on whether or not Hollywood is any good at portraying male/female relationships. That much is evident right from the get-go, and you'll be able to see why right away...and draw your own conclusions. What is the clear pattern to which guys in movies get women and which don't? Why does the wrong guy sometimes get the girl anyway? How come we as men never seem to prefer watching the movies with the best examples of how we could improve with women? Why is it that Hollywood demands post-modern definitions of masculinity, femininity and human relationships from its constituents in real life, yet still freely portrays the primal realities on-screen? What are the differences in how male/female relationships were depicted in the past compared to nowadays? Did John Hughes get it

Co-Host Marc Mawhinney (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/marc) Not so long ago my guest Marc Mawhinney was handed such a massive setback that it made front page news in his city, unreasonably--and falsely--painting him as the bad guy. But nowadays, he has emerged from setback to be one of the foremost experts in his field. This episode is all about turning hateful adversity into a growth opportunity, and Marc is the right man for the job. First off, let's just throw it on the table...how can it be that super high-profile politicians and media pundits can absorb such an overwhelming amount of downright hate, and still wake up in the morning excited to share their opinions with the world? What sets them apart? Is that necessarily even a good thing? Next, discover why being the freakin' man in charge brings its own set of responsibilities. And even if you're not so much as a 'Z-list' public figure, you'll hear what happens when the media gets a hold of your story, and what to do about it. How do you 'get ahead' of

Co-Host Dr. Gary Salyer (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/loveguide) Lots of people have 'trust issues' when it comes to dating and relationships. Where does that come from? And how much skepticism, jealousy and or doubt are acceptable, if not even healthy? Dr. Gary Salyer returns to the show to talk about all of this and more, especially at it all relates to trusting again after divorce. So, how DO we trust again after there has been a breach? And what is the definition of trust to begin with, anyway? What does 'infidelity' and 'cheating' even mean? And is it necessarily the same for every couple? When does a trust issue morph into something completely unreasonable, even to the point of being abusive? What is THE big key to developing the ability to trust again? (Hint: You have TOTAL control over it.) Every couple who has ever come to Gary for counseling has a common roadblock...find out what it is and eliminate it in your life before it's ever an issue. Could it be that one of the most celebrated personal tra

This is part two of our retrospective of the first nine 'lost episodes' of the erstwhile Chick Whisperer Podcast from 2007. Very soon after you click 'play' on this one, you'll figure out that the last episode was only a warmup. My co-host Steve 'The Dean' Williams an I go off on why it's harder to talk to women at bars and clubs than anywhere else, and how that just may be our own fault as men. Then, I reveal a weird secret to how I knew Emily was the right woman. Later, we cover how you too can know when you've found 'The One', and why if you've done so you'll never get bored with her. Next, wait until you get a load of our take on MILFs and 'cougars'. Also, find out why sex is like sales...as long as your salesmanship is coming from the right place. Following that is an interesting take on what women thought of the show, even at a time when most men's dating advice was 'underground'. How long should you wait to contact a woman after getting her number? What is the deal with so-called 'serial dating', and w

In honor of the first 15 years of the show, this is Part One of a two episode retrospective on the early days of what was then called The Chick Whisperer Podcast. The first 9 episodes were co-hosted with Steve 'The Dean' Williams. To this day, that is why I refer to my guests as co-hosts and the format is typically more discussion oriented than purely an interview. I've compiled my favorite clips from all of them. These two 'retrospective' episodes feature those clips, along with a bit of modern-day elaboration. This time, enjoy our 2007 take on the difference between younger guys and seasoned vets when it comes to success with women. Next, hear about the time I told my wife Emily early on that she might make a nice 'friend'. Then, I offer proof we've always been about respecting women even when the PUA movement seemed proud of taking advantage of them, long before the #metoo movement. Personal power as a masculine man has also always been a constant theme. Listen in as I call out the 'stripper's mentality' i

Co-Host Lia Holmgren (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/lia) My returning guest is sex coach extraordinaire Lia Holmgren, and the topic is maximizing the thrill, pleasure and overall experience of flings, one-night stands and 'friends with benefits' relationships. Why do so many people have so many hangups about sex purely for enjoyment, yet those same people often fantasize about it? Well, according to Lia, a whole lot of us would be happier if we simply expressed our sexual fantasies more freely. After all, more people are having 'recreational sex' than we might think. Even the Olympic villages every two years are stoked to the hilt with condoms...for good reason. So then, what are the six areas to focus on to make sure your sexually athletic endeavors are top-notch in quality and intensity? How can we make sporting sex even hotter and naughtier than it sounds...and how can we make it last? How do we make her want more, more, more? What do wolves have to teach us about sex? What if there are more than two play

Co-Host Emily McKay (https://www.deservewhatyouwant.com) Let's face it, when single moms and single dads get together, it's pure naive idealism that would cause us to expect we're creating our own Brady Bunch. The reality of blended families is much different. Emily and I have been there ourselves, and have first-hand experience. We know full well it can seem more like being put through a Vita-Mix than a mere blender. But does it have to be such an ordeal? Well, there's no doubt that bringing everyone involved under one roof is a challenge, but yes...there is plenty of 20/20 foresight that can minimize both the drama and the pain. And what if you're already all together and facing profound issues as a blended family? No worries, Emily and I have real, actionable answers for you as well. So, why is blending a family uniquely different when it comes to baseline compatibility measures? What should we think about BEFORE dating a single mom? How does selfishness creep in to the picture...often with devastating res

Co-Host Nick Gray (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/gray) My guest Nick Gray is the originator of The Cocktail Party Method to grow your social circle and influence. Throwing parties in his twenties led to his success and how you can do it too. Discover why holding even small parties at your home (and yes, it needs to be at YOUR place) is the perfect way to grow your social circle and your influence on many different levels. Next, Nick gets into the specifics on how to throw parties. How much should you spend, what should you buy, what should you NOT buy, and what other ways should you prepare? Find out why your party might even be BETTER if you live in a small or even relatively dumpy place. What if you are introverted or even have social anxiety? Does that mean you can't do what Nick's talking about? You'll stand up and cheer at his surprising response. What are the pros and cons to co-hosting a party with someone else? And how exactly do you build your guest list? Is it okay to invite people who you like, bu

Co-Host Marcus Oakey (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/marcus) Is it true that 'life goes on, long after the thrill of living is gone'? Men have a weird relationship with fun, don't we? Few of us would openly deny we like to have fun, but when it comes to CREATING fun with women we worry about coming off as unattractive...either by being immature or even feminine. My returning guest Marcus Oakey from the UK is a charisma coach. Charisma is a nebulous and even complex term to define for many people. But at its core, it's all about driving emotion. As it turns out, having fun and BEING fun are both closely tied to charismatic personality types. But being boring, gunfighter serious all the time or flat-out cranky is never attractive. We instinctively know this, so why can't we as men lighten up? I present as evidence how many first date conversations turn dark and negative...with our full consent. That leads to the familiar theme of taking oneself too seriously. Stay tuned for new and unique ways we do that...all

Co-Host Sarrah Rose (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/sarrah) Many men think women don't like sex, yet they also believe it when they're told women will leave them because of BAD sex. It seems the best defense against confronting this confusion is to simply rock your woman's world in the bedroom. My friend and queen of Tantric Activation, Sarrah Rose, returns...as proof positive women can have a luridly explicit conversation about sex without batting an eyelash. First, to establish 'street cred', Sarrah acknowledges the kind of sex that keeps MEN around. Stay tuned for the ensuing secrets to a great blowjob by a woman. But seriously, how often do women end relationships because of bad sex? As it turns out, there's often a BIG difference between how men and women define that. Ironically, most men think they're good at sex, while according to women they're not. Find out why porn serves as a completely inadequate lesson on how to have great sex...and it's not for any of the reasons you've heard before. Meanwhile,

Co-Host Dr. Joshua Estrin (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/estrin) As political dogma fast becomes new paradigm for religion in this culture, the more power the masses are willing to cede to the legal and judicial systems. But 'true faith' in government comes at what cost to our freedom...especially in our sex lives? Well, this episode is basically about what can only be called 'sexual libertarianism'. The bigger picture, however, is all about losing fear-based mindsets and thinking for oneself. And just to throw a wrench in the works, my guest Dr. Josh Estrin is an openly gay man. Although that's unusual (but not unprecedented) for this show, prepare to be amazed by how little the nature of our respective sex lives really matters relative to the importance of keeping government OUT. The resulting conversation will go down as exactly the kind of honest AND positive one gay and straight people need to have more of. Sure, we talk about why abortion isn't necessarily a religious argument, how 'choice' should appl

Co-Host Cole Rodgers (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/cole) So many of us as men complain about our WAGs, and guess what? Our women end up remaining exactly like what they keep complaining about. What if it's possible WE have something to do with that? My guest Cole Rodgers the the author of School Of Man: The Man's Guide To Living, Loving and Legacy, and he's all about men and women being better together than apart. After all, isn't that how it should be? We kick the show off by acknowledging two keys to happiness in this life. Without them, the rest of this conversation is all for naught. Next, what are the exact ways post-modernity has allegedly made our lives 'better', but at the devastating cost of really feeling ALIVE...especially in relationships with the women we love? The first step to really maximizing partnership with a great woman should be obvious to us as men, but unfortunately it often isn't. Cole reveals it. What is the undeniable link between today's 'convenience culture' and realization of th

Co-Host Kim Ades (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/frameofmind) What is 'resilience', anyway? That word has been coming up more than ever before lately. Well, it's a bit of a specialty for Toronto's own Kim Ades, head of Frame of Mind Coaching and my guest for this episode. What have the last two pandemic years taught us about being resilient? Why do certain people thrive even after immense personal trauma or tragedy, while others wilt even in the face of relatively lightweight challenges? What is the difference between these victims versus the victors? What's up with the new apparent push in society to embrace victimhood, if not flat-out celebrate it? Is that really helping anyone? Are people who troll political Twitter looking for fights MORE resilient than the rest of us...or is that an illusion? Next, stay tuned for the unfortunate buzzword that when used almost always indicates profound lack of resilience. Do 'first world problems' rob us of our resilience? What keeps talented and driven individuals from r

Co-Host Laurie Singer (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/laurie) My guest Laurie Singer is a board-certified therapist who specializes in applied behavioral analysis. She literally wrote the book on obsessions and fetishes, which makes her the perfect guest for this long-overdue topic. According to Laurie, you have to learn to LIVE with your fetishes and obsessions. But wait a minute...doesn't that depend on whether they're socially acceptable and not harmful to others? So what IS a fetish, anyway? How is it different from an obsession? And is it necessarily an abnormality that needs to be fixed? Is it fair to ask men who prefer a certain kind of woman if they're fetishizing them? For example, is men having an 'Asian fetish' really a thing? Is it weird to think women's feet are sexy? What are some other feminine physical features we might think strange to find sexy, yet many more men do than we think? Not to be outdone, Laurie shares some truly unique stories about real-life cases she's encountered. And hey, wha

Co-Host Dr. Joan Rosenberg (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/joan) We as men play all sorts of mental tricks on ourselves when our confidence level is down. That's truly a new and powerful take on the somewhat shop-worn topic of confidence, thanks to my guest Dr. Joan Rosenberg. Confidence and resiliency, she has found, has everything to do with your ability to handle unpleasant emotions. First off, discover how the 'Rosenberg Reset' can get you focused and immediately more confident in just 90 seconds. Next, Dr. Joan reveals how we distract or disconnect from feelings rather than allowing ourselves to feel them...resulting in a hit to our confidence every time. What are the 8 'confidence keys'? And what's up with the human tendency to 'layer feelings' as either an emotional distraction or a protection mechanism? How do we trick ourselves into 'transmuting' our feelings when we're not feeling all that confident? Why is it so many of us as men not only don't take criticism well, we don't take compliments well ei

Co-Host Dr. Judson Brandeis (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/judson) One thing we've never done in over 300 episodes is get a medical doctor's take on sexual attractiveness to women. So it was on that premise that we opened this episode, but it ended up being much more than that. My guest Dr. Judson Brandeis proceeded to reveal a myriad of ways we as men can reach peak sexual performance, literally becoming better sexual athletes. After a brief discussion of how to have more sexual stamina downstairs, we turned our attention to how your diet and alcohol consumption affect matters. If we shouldn't eat carbs, and we shouldn't load up on cholesterol...what's left to eat? Next, what are the primal elements of sexual attraction relative to our overall health? Why are modern-day men so bad at keeping our testosterone levels up? What's up with us as men being so complacent about exactly those elements of personal health that make us sexually attractive? How does the media assault on "toxic masculinity" trick us psych

Co-Host Zan Perrion (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/zan) Post-modern culture is pitting men and women against each other more and more as time passes. So who is left to make the case for the glory of men and women having the hots for each other? It seems like a weird question, but my friend Zan Perrion and I are left to stand in the gap. Zan loves women more than any man I've ever met (even myself), and proves it every day of his life. Listen in as he rekindles the case for masculinity and femininity as divinely-inspired intelligent design. Why are so many men afraid to express their natural attraction to women nowadays, especially given that heterosexual women WANT heterosexual men? What should our response be to this trend of aggressive fighting strategy toward women who hate men, or even men who hate women? Are you some sort of simp for having positive regard for women? Where did that fear even come from? What if our biggest complaints about interacting with women are really nothing more than weak excuses?

Co-Host Emily McKay (https://www.deservewhatyouwant.com) As the lyrics of one of Tyler Childers' songs say, 'There is hurt you can cause that time alone cannot heal'. When it comes to our interactions with women, a breathtaking amount of that pain is caused by what we say...or what SHE says. And when we get into a relationship, the stakes get even higher. Emily and I get straight to the point in this episode, first addressing the weird childhood refrain that 'sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me'. So then, what about childhood? How does what our parents--and maybe even teachers--tell us form our views of and expectations toward future romantic relationship? What's the truth about how early-stage communication between men and women can deeply impact BOTH participants, both in the short-term and the longer-term? What are the differences between how men and women tend to process conversational conflict...and the surprising similarities? What are the patterns that lead to couples blur

Co-Host Allana Pratt (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/pratt) The last time Allana was on, she spoke memorably about how a woman recharges a warrior's masculine energy with femininity. So when I started considering the topic of men and women being in partnership with each other rather than being adversarial, she was the first co-host who came to mind. And sure enough, this show delivers. Let's face it, there's just way too much out there about men and women lacking trust for each other, or even flat out not liking each other. Yet, if you think about it, the natural order of things dictates that men and women are designed to be together. So what happened here in post-modernity? What has contributed to the rampant blame game between men and women? What patterns of failur result in us thinking the other gender is no darned good? How has our 21st-century culture of self-absorption impacted relationships? Is our wife or girlfriend really OURS? Listen in as Allana makes a solid case for partnership being better than

Co-Host David Medansky (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/antidiet) Let's face it. There are a whole lot of things we are doing--either sins of commission or omission--that are shortening our lifespan as men. Not coincidentally, some of these same questionable habits are also making us less attractive to women and less likely to get ahead in our careers. Yet, we stubbornly refuse to modify our course...even when we know we're not doing ourselves any darned good. But here's the thing, the truly insidious part is we're probably also doing things that we have NO IDEA are killing us. Enter my guest, David Medansky. Now sure, like me David lost 50 pounds. But see, he doesn't believe for a second that dieting as you know it is good for you at all. For example, how are we supposed to differentiate between good, solid wisdom and convincing marketing tactics? Do you really have to get older and slower by default? What is the one simple, easy and cheap thing we can do immediately to be healthier all around and live longer