Like A Mother

  I get messages all the time from married moms who want to be in my moms' groups.  I get that you feel alone, that you don't fit into a happy, 'traditional' family. But you're not allowed. Sorry. I feel for you. I do. Anecdotally, I don’t know so many really happy marriages, and scholars have found the same. Per Rebecca Traister’s very excellent bestselling All The Single Ladies: Psychologist Ty Tashiro suggested in a 2014 book that only three in ten married people enjoy happy and healthy marriages, and that being in an unhappy partnership can increase your chances of getting sick by about 35 percent. Another researcher, John Gottman, has found that being in an unhappy union could shorten your life by four years. A recently published Stanford study found that women initiate divorce 69 percent of the time. In other words: Married mom desperate to hang with single moms: You are not alone in your marital misery. You’re good! Normal!  Meanwhile, single motherhood is losing its stigma, so much so that all thes