Nourishing The Mother

Sick of striving for the ‘regulated self’ above all else? If you’re done with self-resentment and the projection and judgement that creates a lot of pain in your world, then this podcast is for you.In this 30-minute conversation we’ll get you to love the other side of yourself, and feel safer in your dysregulation, so you can go beyond ‘calm at all costs’.In this episode we discuss:Dysregulation as the guardian of connection to selfYou don’t always need to be calm to be connectedStay hating your dysregulation and you’ll miss your growthYour next identity is in your dysregulationCreating successful relationships by embracing dysregulationMoving beyond your childhood imprintDysregulation keeps you humble and opens your heart to othersThe beauty in accessing more of yourselfTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.l

Friendships in motherhood can feel so intense, intimate and important that when they begin to fade away, we can feel and immense amount of grief and loss.This episode is designed to fill that hole in your heart with love and a calm, quiet appreciation for what was, and a blooming possibility for what might be.In this episode we discuss:Considering friendship as more of a carousel, where different people step on and off, at different points in your life, to unlock your next consciousnessFiguring out the purpose of the friendship that you had, to take the sting out of nowConsidering the law of the one and the manyFlipping from focusing on what’s missing to a growth mindsetBuilding an identity on friendshipFeeling lonely makes you ache moreThinking about finding friends differently, so it becomes an active processFilling your ‘available space’ with friends that are going to awaken that area of life for youKnowing what you want in a friendship and becoming an energetic match for thatLove is always changing form…l

Following on from last week’s podcast, we continue the conversation around social media, screens, education, sex and alcohol and all the glorious boundary setting and conversations in between.In this episode we discuss:The importance of staying in relationship while negotiating boundariesThe value of evolving conversations rather than hard and fast rulesHaving your family values as an active conversationRemembering teens use screens to facilitate expansion of self, and creating meaningful negotiation from that understandingEquity versus equality in family boundary-settingChoosing educational institutions for the tethering to community that they provideListening to many diverse lived experiences to inform your choicesCreating a sex-positive within culture within your homeRecognising the value of sibling relationships in teaching consent, negotiation, and sensitising to another human, which is necessary for healthy sexual relationships in the futureTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Ho

Following on from a flurry of responses on our socials, this podcast is a round-table honest mum-wisdom discussion about the realities and lessons learnt on the tween/teen journey. In this Part 1 we discuss:⁃How to recognise when you’re ‘in this phase’ of parenting⁃Holding relationship as the key fundamental to successful parenting in the teenage years⁃Knowing when to step back or lean in⁃Teaching our kids how to be with commitment and responsibility to more than themselves and in doing so, teaching them how to trust more than their anxiety and fear⁃Loving and connecting with your tween/teen - how it changes and bringing awareness to your connection points⁃Enjoying your tween/teen and who they are as a whole and complex human⁃Finding grace within the sharp barbs of these years and what creates the difference between a brutal or beautiful experience⁃As our kids grow, letting them grow us and embracing the growth that is your life RIGHT NOW⁃Not being ‘so perfect’ and allowing space for your kids to witness your

If you stay overfunctioning, you’re training everyone around you to underfunction. If you stay in overwhelm, you’ll stay in a fight/flight/freeze/fawn activated state, never really moving forwards. If you stay in resentment, you’ll forever blame others and never really be available for connection.So what’s the way out? We give you one step to disrupt the cycle, at each stage. In this episode we discuss:Training people to underfunctionOverfunctioning to mask your own vulnerability When your self-worth is attached to ‘doing’ Letting go of control Triaging your overwhelm Chunking down tasks so they’re manageable Hoarding your mental load It’s not all on you Being willing to let go and delegate Resentment happens when we lose ourselves When we get angry at others for not giving us the thing we’re not giving ourselves To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood wi

The ‘perfect mother myth’ permeates our culture; it implies ‘children before mother’ and asks you to pour copious amounts of energy, money and time into your child. But what happens when this ideology is so loud it undermines or overrides your boundaries?In this episode we discuss:Key ways to check in with yourselfGetting clear on whether your yes is authentic or a narrativeRecognising when you’re saying yes but you really mean noThe impact of resentment on your child or yourself, when you do something you really don’t want to doChallenging the narrative that disrupts your self-worth or identity as a motherGetting clear on your reflexive ‘no’Differentiating dysregulated and anxiety responses from solid, self-governed responsesProviding opportunities to develop future relationship negotiation skillsCaring, Careful and Careless relationshipsIt’s not safer saying ‘yes’Your ‘no’ opens their creativity and problem solvingBeing willing to be with the other person not liking your boundaryTo explore feminine embodime

Nothing kills relationships faster than neglect and assumptions. So if you’re choosing this person today - why? You need to have a shared ‘eye on the prize’ (your end goal) to create the deeply fulfilling daily experience you crave.In this episode we discuss:Should’s vs agreementsUndermining your relationship intimacyThe pain is from the assumption, not the moment itselfExpressed or implied, your partner feels the weight and burden of a ‘should’ from youCreating consensual relationship agreementsWhatever you demonise you createMedicinal moments in relationship that call forwards integrityAllow sexual energy to build, but learn to direct itMonogamy needs a strong connection to self and highest valuesActively choosing your source of attractionBeing an active participant in your relationshipThe impact of social and religious conditioning and dominant family structuresThe devastating reality of financial abuse for womenCreating heart-open gratitude by overlapping both your top valuesWorking towards something bigg

Through Julie’s share of a traumatic weekend, which started with a broken arm and ended in ICU, we discuss the beauty of our old and new coping strategies. We explore getting off the treadmill of always ‘being better’ to bring instant relief and lightness. We hope you give yourself the deepest compassion and permission from this podcast. In this podcast we discuss:- Holding deep self-compassion alongside our self-growth- The self-created punishment cycles when old habits arise- Moving beyond the ‘fixing’ of ‘I’m not functioning’ - Not giving your strategies so much power that you fuel them - Balancing your perceptions when you’re in a wound- Recognising how the mother wound plays out - Phoning a friend: the value of perspective - Seeing that you don’t have to everything for your child’s best outcomes- The subtleties of intuition and how it speaksTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring mother

When you’re feeling like you’re in a limbo phase with no joy, and you’re itching to get out, it’s probably time to recognise that you’ve shifted, and your boundaries need to catch up. In this episode we explore:- Boundaries with self- Boundaries with kids- Boundaries with workTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

This episode is inspired by a listener’s question on whether to have another child. We delve into her blocks, and open up the conversation on our old stories, balancing our perceptions and the potential relationship toll. In this episode we discuss:- Knowing the stories you bring to this decision- Digging deeper into ‘what’s wrong’ with your childhood- Understanding how the brain works during stress, and that you’ll regress to the stories you come with- Setting yourself and your partner up for success through these tricky times - Being with the terror, feeling it all, and letting your desire be spoken - Choosing your inspired suffering and where you rise - Balancing being seen as ‘better’ - Recognising when we have a fantasy driving our actions - Expanding our mind and our world by seeing where the opposite is equally true - If he’s not on board, where is that a reflection of where you’re also wobbly?- Resourcing yourself to upskill what you need to expand your life in more fulfilling ways, as you expand your

Whether home or on holiday, practice holding yourself and your needs without coercion or contortion. We’re here to give you three easy keys to alleviate the mental load and open up spaciousness wherever you find yourself. In this episode we discuss: ⁃ The amplification of relationship stress and family dynamics on holiday ⁃ Recognising conflict as different agendas based on different values ⁃ Scaffolding yourself and your kids for successful experiences  ⁃ Planning for neurodiversity and dysregulation  ⁃ How to bring familiarity for the brain that creates safety ⁃ Knowing that when things don’t go to plan, we activate and emotionally regress, and don’t have capacity  ⁃ Scaffolding for when the plan doesn’t go to plan  ⁃ Hoarding the mental load, and letting it go  ⁃ Moving beyond ‘f you, f them, I’m out!’ ⁃ The personal responsibility involved in the tap out  ⁃ Kids contribution to the family having a wider lens  ⁃ When parenting feels like it gets in the way of what you really want to be doing  ⁃ Creating ba

The people that intimate us stretch us in all the ways our soul wants us to expand into, but our nervous system needs us to parent ourselves through.The people that intimidate us open our world, our beliefs and our possibilities, so we want you to be around them more! And we’re going to tell you how.In this episode we discuss: ⁃ Why you really DO want to be around the people that intimidate you ⁃ How to help your nervous system stay in intensity, so you can stay in the transformation ⁃ How to love the defences that arise in their presence ⁃ Avoiding shame spirals ⁃ Bodywork to build safety  ⁃ Mindset shifts to make it safe to ‘be here’ ⁃ You can’t stick your hand in a pot of honey without some of it sticking ⁃ Consciously putting yourself in the path of that which you want to stick  ⁃ The bigger your challenge, the bigger your potential for transformation  ⁃ Balancing your perceptions of kindergarten and mastery within them and youTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Ju

Your nervous system feels frayed, and you feel like you just can’t take it anymore…every day is like a firing of that trigger, and there’s no break and no light at the end of the tunnel…listen to this!We’ll take you through three easy, tangible steps so you can change your story, so you can change your life. In this episode we discuss: ⁃ What does it mean to be the ‘too good’ child?  ⁃ Dispersing the ‘good’ and ‘bad’ traits across a family dynamic ⁃ As parents, we can further polarise, and amplify traits and behaviours in our children ⁃ The way children end up playing the role that we cast them in  ⁃ Owning the trait so you stop rallying against them  ⁃ Making room in your life for new things that are important to you ⁃ The choice point we have around how we can respond  ⁃ Whether we see our child as a problem, or we see this as a deeper initiation into greater skills and identity  ⁃ Trusting your child’s strength more than their fragility ⁃ Witnessing an emotion without making it mean anything ⁃ Getting skil

You know you’re on the struggle bus when you feel like a passenger to your life, you can’t see a way out, and you’re exhausted. Now it’s time to gently give yourself permission to take a step off. In this episode we discuss:  ⁃ Three main areas of overwhelm; family finances, parenting and mental load inequality in relationships  ⁃ Flipping your debt into service ⁃ Having a bigger plan versus immediate spinning your wheels  ⁃ Getting immediate inspiration and meaning by seeing a long term plan that you’re inspired by  ⁃ Creating more agency with your time ⁃ Recognising what comes up for you  ⁃ Asking ‘how’ instead of stopping at ‘I can’t’  ⁃ Meeting your resource needs so you can manage your parenting needs  ⁃ Changing what you see so you feel differently ⁃ A review process for your mental load  ⁃ Sharing and delegating mental load so your lifestyle is more sustainableTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parentin

We give up pieces of ourselves for other’s comfort and for our sense of belonging. What happens when you realise your way of belonging to the world is now keeping you small? How do we drop the addiction to being liked so we’re fully free to live our authentic selves.In this episode we discuss:Holding yourself without persona, perfection, protection or projectionConsciously stepping forwards into your ever-evolving most-authentic selfMoving beyond the peacemaker and the doormatembracing your whole self including your shadowReleasing your children so they have full permission to follow their inner compassStop diluting yourself and dimming your light so you’re palatable for othersUntangling from past fears so they no longer run your futureRecognising there’s a part of you that benefits from trying to contort yourself for the appetite of othersKnowing that in order to be seen and celebrated in the way that you want to, you have to be willing to be challengingThe value holding yourself in the discomfort of being d

Rather than empty platitudes we ground you in three easy steps on how to stop ‘I’m not enough’ in its tracks.In this episode we discuss:Remembering what it feels like when you’re connected to *you* so you can always return thereMoving beyond a lack mindset that keeps you stuckSinking into the belief that challenge isn’t without fruitSeeing that comparison creates infatuationTaking the thing that you’re comparing yourself to off a pedestalDialling down the noise so that the things that *are* for you can find youCleaning up and curating what you’re consumingThe truth of who you are creates ripples in the world far greater than any fantasy about who you think you should beTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

Your body takes the shape of what reality you’re believing, so the question is, what is the story you’re telling yourself in any given moment? In this episode we centre what you can do when you have what you perceive is a ‘toxic mother’, and how to avoid to avoid making your imprint your parenting.In this episode we discuss:The destabilising effect of trauma in the nervous systemWhat it takes to lead yourself wellThe deeply hidden aspect of mothering yourselfSinking into the dynamic and knowing what you’re getting from itWhy removing ‘toxic people’ can limit your child’s growthGiving your kids agency and tools in tough momentsCreating your own ‘peace plan’Loving yourself and them deeply through the processTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

We’re all about creating permission on how we can be more ‘us’ alongside seeing, honouring and allowing our whole child in front of us. In this episode we take you through the four steps to really giving yourself permission to be fully lit and inspired as you mother.In this episode we discuss:What is your lineage and your lens?Response-ability is shaped by where you come fromFeeling swallowed by the weight of perfectionPerfection is future-focussedKnowing the stories you return to, and bringing awareness, so you don’t embody the shadow you’re running formNoticing what’s in competition and bringing connectionNoticing beliefs that keep you smallAuthentic and inspired you follows the true expression of you, so connection is the only possibilityAllowing shift and changeTrusting your child’s strength and capability more than your anxiety-driven, controlling parenting measuresSelf-righteousness will happen, so bring humility when you come full circleWhat we can’t love holds us back, so love who you are in every evo

In this episode we give you the three-step how-to that gives you spaciousness in motherhood that doesn’t feel like you’re gripping, controlling and hanging on. Let’s create some ease, flow, fulfilment and feel-good vibes!In this episode we discuss:Offering yourself the same love and compassion that you offer your childrenStop creating resentment cyclesMoving your motherhood beyond servitudeLeaning into your own boundariesStretching more of who you are and what you can doKnowing how to value your own needs and stop apologisingRemoving guilt and shame so you can be filled by what you receiveDon’t ignore what lights you upStop doing ‘later’ on your your dreams and desires‘Capacity’ is not a thingWhen you’re wobbly, being pulled into your bigger whyYour life is in continuous conversation with youInspiration creates capacityKnow where you’re headed, vision board your perfectionTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious par

The tips you need to know to create a family holiday that feels like connection and joy, and leaves you feeling replenished. Instead of assuming you’ll have a great time, because it looks the Instagram picture, but it feels like resentment and overwhelm. In this episode we discuss:- Becoming attached to the experience your child has- The expectation on everyone to have a good time because you’ve spent money- Measuring yourself against others’ experiences and ending up in shame and guilt - Using comparison to fuel us, but recognising when it’s collapsing us- Creating a ‘heads up’ to guide your family and balance their nervous systems - Giving details that help our kids feel safe - Setting our kids up to adjust and flow with change - Getting your kids on board, rather than fighting you - Creating more ease as a parent - When you hide the challenge, you intensify the problem - Co-regulation tools to use with your child - Clearly defining parent roles and expectations - Recognising the needs and meeting them - Re