I Only Say This Because I Love You: Talking In Families

  • Author: Deborah Tannen
  • Narrator: Patricia Mulholland
  • Publisher: Simon & Schuster
  • Duration: 12:38:44
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Synopsis

Why does talk in families so often go in circles, leaving us tied up in knots? Linguist Deborah Tannen reveals why talking to family members is so often painful and problematic -- even when we're all adults.

Searching for signs of acceptance and belonging, we find signs of disapproval and rejection. Why do the seeds of family love so often yield a harvest of criticism and judgment? In I Only Say This Because I Love You, Tannen shows how important it is, in family talk, to learn to separate word meanings, or messages, from heart meanings, or metamessages -- unstated but powerful meanings that come from the history of our relationships and the way things are said.

Presenting real conversations from people's lives, Tannen explores what is actually going on in family talk, including how family conversations must balance the longing for connection with the desire for control, as we struggle to be close without giving up our freedom.

This eye-opening audiobook explains why grown women so often feel criticized by their mothers -- and why mothers feel they can't open their mouths around their grown daughters, why growing up male or female, or as an older or younger sibling, results in different experiences of family that persist throughout our lives. BY helping us to understand and redefine family talk, Tannen provides the tools to improve relationships with family members of every age.

Chapters

  • IOnlySayThisBecause 21 Chapter6a

    Duration: 23min
  • IOnlySayThisBecause 22 Chapter6b

    Duration: 23min
  • IOnlySayThisBecause 23 Chapter6c

    Duration: 23min
  • IOnlySayThisBecause 24 Chapter6d

    Duration: 23min
  • IOnlySayThisBecause 25 Chapter6e

    Duration: 20min
  • IOnlySayThisBecause 26 Chapter7a

    Duration: 24min
  • IOnlySayThisBecause 27 Chapter7b

    Duration: 24min
  • IOnlySayThisBecause 28 Chapter7c

    Duration: 23min
  • IOnlySayThisBecause 29 Chapter7d

    Duration: 21min
  • IOnlySayThisBecause 30 Chapter8a

    Duration: 21min
  • IOnlySayThisBecause 31 Chapter8b

    Duration: 21min
  • IOnlySayThisBecause 32 Chapter8c

    Duration: 20min
  • IOnlySayThisBecause 33 Chapter8d

    Duration: 15min
  • IOnlySayThisBecause 34 Chapter9a

    Duration: 21min
  • IOnlySayThisBecause 35 Chapter9b

    Duration: 24min
  • IOnlySayThisBecause 36 Chapter9c Close

    Duration: 21min
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