The Tapestry Podcast

Today Melissa King and Sarah Collier join me for a conversation about grace and obedience.  The struggle to live fully in both grace and obedience is no easy or insignificant matter.  And, as today’s conversation will illustrate, losing your grounding on one side or the other can be associated with depression, insecurity, perfectionism and even addiction.   Download

Today Stace Huff joins us to talk about how to complain without complaining.  As Stace’s boss, I’m here to tell you that she’s is an expert at complaining… ;-)  but, seriously, she has some great ideas for couples on how to structure a complaint so you not only avoid provoking your spouse, but may even create an opportunity for intimacy and connection.  So, if you’re married and need a few pointers on how to file a formal complaint, I think...

Today Daniel Peeks and Stace Huff join me to offer some insights into emotional reactivity.  We are going to discuss something called “Emotional Memory” and the role it plays in our intimate relationships.  As both a husband and a psychologist, understanding the neurology and behavior associated with emotional memory was very impactful and valuable.  I hope that today’s show will be the same for you. Download

6/26/18Today Mary Breshears and Bev Elliott join me for a conversation about child abduction and sexual abuse.  As parents, we walk a fine line as we acknowledge the dangers in our world and protect our children, while also recognizing the limits of our humanity and not allowing our fears to over come us.  In today’s show, Mary and Bev have some guidance and perspective for parents striving to protect, but not over-protect their children.  Download

Today Sarah Collier and Melissa King join me for a conversation about fear and control.  Across the course of my career, I have become convinced that controlling people are scared people.  If you’re bent toward control and that doesn’t immediately make sense to you, then I think you’ll find today’s show quite helpful.  Download

Today Stace Huff and Bev Elliott join me for a conversation about the challenge and importance of solitude.  Too often, the busyness of outer lives collaborates with the chaos of our inner lives to keep us moving and active.  However, when we fail to get alone and slow down, we not only rob ourselves of an important need, but we may fail to recognize internal warnings that alert us to future crises.  Today’s conversation is for everyone.  I hope you&...

Today Mary Breshears and Daniel Peeks join me for a conversation about performance.  I’m not sure about other metropolitan areas, but here in Metro-Atlanta, the culture is marked by a very busy pace of life and a good dose of “keeping up with the Jones”.  Success is often measured materially and - at least in appearance - by having a happy family.  So, its real easy to get sucked on that gerbil’s wheel where my identity and worth are defined ...

Today Bev Elliott and Stace Huff join me for a conversation about the significance of nonverbal communication.  Often, the most important aspect of communication in a marriage is the nonverbal communication.  Body posture, facial expression and tone betray emotions and attitudes which we may not even recognize we are experiencing.  In our conversation today, Bev and Stace will highlight the importance of making the implicit explicit when we engage with our spouse.&n...

Periods of sadness and anxiety are inevitable part of life, but when we watch our children struggling it can be heart-wrenching.  Today Sarah Collier and Melissa King join us for a conversation about childhood depression and anxiety.  Sarah and Melissa have some important insights to help parents better discern whether their child is just going through a momentary bout of sadness and anxiety like we all confront or whether they’re wrestling with something more disruptiv...

Although none of us expect our marriages to end in divorce, it still happens and the impact of it on our children can be far-reaching.  Although there's no way to forego the disruptive effect of divorce on children, today Stace Huff and Bev Elliott join me to offer some concrete advice for parents about helping children through the difficult process of divorce.  So, if you have recently gone through a divorce or are moving into a divorce, you won’t want to miss today&rsq...

Today Stace Huff and Mary Breshears join me for a conversation about emotion. As a guy, I have to confess that I didn’t even know that I had a feeling – except for anger – until I was almost 30 years old. And it still took me another 10 years to figure out what to do with them.

Today Daniel Peeks and Bev Elliott join us for a conversation about relational traumas. In an intimate relationship, there are certain critical events which – although not necessarily recognized as damaging or traumatic at the time – a failure to heal that compromises trust and intimacy eventually exposes them to be relationally traumatic. An affair would be an obvious form of relational trauma.

Today Sarah Collier and Melissa King join me for a conversation about parenting during your child’s social crises. Whether its dealing with the bully, the mean girl or some other social hiccup that your child confronts, how a parent engages with their child can either bolster or frustrate their development. Although our mainstream culture is currently bent toward overprotecting children from even the slightest threat to their identity or worth, Melissa and Sarah have some great insights in...

Today Daniel Peeks and Stace Huff join me for a conversation about mind-reading in marriage. We know how much you hate it when your spouse presumes to know what you’re thinking and feeling during an argument… and sometimes they may be right… but more often they’re wrong. So, in today’s show Daniel and Stace offer some insights into how that happens, why its almost always destructive and how you can learn NOT to read your spouse’s mind.

Today Sarah Collier joins me for a conversation about how to set SMART Goals for the upcoming year. A couple of weeks ago, we had a podcast about the internal barriers that keep us from fulfilling our New Year’s Resolutions but in today’s show, we’re going to focus on making sure that you’re setting the right kind of goals and resolutions for the year. Sarah’s got some great ideas and I think that you’re going to find today’s conversation helpful.Downloa...

Today Daniel Peeks joins me for a conversation about decision-making paralysis. If you find that you tend to freeze up when you’re making big decisions, Daniel has some solid insights and advice for you and I think that you’re going to find today’s conversation helpful.Download

Today Mary Breshears joins us for a conversation about forgiveness. Although we, as believers, should have the inside track on forgiveness, the mainstream Christian culture may unnecessarily complicate the process. Mary has some solid insights into the process of forgiveness and I think that you’re going to find today’s conversation helpful.Download

Today Daniel Peeks joins me for a conversation about the bowl games and SEC football… and also about anger and vulnerability. If you struggle with anger in your intimate relationships and want some helpful strategies for better understanding and managing it, you may find today’s conversation helpful.Download

Today Stace Huff and Mary Breshears join me for a conversation about New Year’s Resolutions. If you’ve struggled to follow through in the past and want to try and do it different this year, then I think that you’re going to find today’s podcast helpful.DownloadIf you have a question you'd like to hear our counselors address in a future podcast, send us an e-mail at abby.jay@tapestryassociates.com  

Today Stace Huff and Sarah Collier join us for a conversation for parents of young adults. In anticipation of college students returning home across the holidays, they've got some advice about What Not To Do while your college students are home for the Holidays.  Download