Conversations With Cinthia

Did you know there is a healthy type of shame?  We are so used to talking about the toxic kind that we often forget it has a more helpful counterpart.  Shame is a spiritual crisis because it interacts with identity, but not all shame interacts with it in the same way.  Today Cinthia explores the many facets of shame and discusses some strategies that do and do not work for combating the ravages of unhealthy shame.  Healthy shame is simply an indicator, somewhat like a warning light. It is the concept of needing to maintain appropriate covering, which gives privacy and dignity (as opposed to the fear-based secrecy dictated by unhealthy shame).  Healthy shame tells us we are near a boundary and warns us not to cross it, or to fix what we have broken and seek forgiveness for wrong done.  Healthy shame tells us that some choices do not align with what we were meant to be and that these attitudes and actions do not make us the best versions of ourselves, the versions intended by our Creator when He designed each o