Kate Hastings Show

At the core of every boundary is self-respect. When we set boundaries, we’re reinforcing the belief that our time, energy, and emotions are valuable. At the core of every boundary is a strong connection to our values. Our values are the foundation that keeps us grounded, while boundaries create the structure that protects what we hold most important. Without boundaries, it’s easy for others’ actions, opinions, or demands to push us off balance, leaving us feeling drained and disconnected. Setting boundaries helps us stay grounded in our values, ensuring that the relationships we invest in reflect our core beliefs. By doing so, we protect our emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being, allowing us to give to others from a place of abundance rather than burnout. One of the biggest challenges to setting and maintaining boundaries is our own mindset. Often, fears such as rejection, people-pleasing, or the need for approval prevent us from standing firm. When we let our insecurities dictate our actions, we end

Being a strong, confident woman means owning your power, voice, and choices. You don’t let others define your path or settle for less than what you deserve. When life offers you breadcrumbs, you don’t accept them. You’re here for more than the bare minimum—you know your worth and aren’t afraid to walk away from anything or anyone who doesn’t meet your standards. This isn’t about being unapproachable or tough—it’s about standing firm in your value and knowing you don’t need validation from others to feel fulfilled. You already carry that strength within you. You respect the balance of the masculine and feminine, knowing that both energies have their own power. You honor a man’s strength without compromising your own. True strength is found in balancing fearlessness with compassion, power with grace. You embrace your femininity while holding space for your vulnerability. A powerful woman stands secure in her worth, leads with love, and holds firm to her boundaries, knowing that resilience comes from within.   P

The times when you’re backed into a corner, forced to make a decision: Do you stand your ground, tap into your perseverance, grit, and adaptability? Or do you let fear and panic take over and run with it? Life doesn’t come with easy answers, but one thing that’s certain is that our character is revealed in the hardest of times. Whether it's a breakup, a personal loss, or facing two of the biggest hurricanes to hit Florida—I understand what that feels like. During those moments, you’re thrown into uncertainty, and you quickly realize that you need to learn how to navigate it. It’s not about avoiding the storm or pretending it isn’t happening. It’s about finding a way to remain calm inside, even when everything around you is chaotic. Because when your back is against the wall, you have two choices: Let fear paralyze you, or allow these moments to reveal just how strong you truly are. This is where perseverance and grit come into play. Perseverance isn’t about simply holding on; it’s actively choosing to stay fo

For much of my life, I lived in a warrior mindset. I was constantly in survival mode, always protecting myself from being hurt, being betrayed, or being taken advantage of. My identity was rooted in fear survival tactics, self-isolation, chasing external achievements, and proving wrong the people who told me I couldn’t do something. It’s like I needed that fight to feel alive, to feel like I had a purpose. When your whole identity is built around surviving, you end up putting on a mask to protect yourself. This mask hides who you really are, and it often looks like success or strength to the outside world. My achievements became this mask—on the surface, it looked like I was winning, but deep down, I was losing the real battle with myself. The mask is a way to shield yourself from getting hurt, rejected, or judged. Maybe you show the world a version of yourself that seems successful, like you’ve got it all together, when in reality, you’re struggling inside. The achievements or control you project to others m

We all know what to do—wake up early, eat healthy, hit the gym, set goals—but why is it so hard to stay consistent? The truth is, it’s not just about knowing what to do, it’s about who you become through discipline. Willpower gets you started, but it’s short-lived. It’s the quick burst of energy you use to resist temptation or push through discomfort. Discipline is the long-term muscle you build. It’s what keeps you going when motivation fades. It’s about aligning your actions with your values and building sustainable habits that lead to real growth. The magic happens when you close the gap between where you are now and where you want to be. Discipline rewires your nervous system, stabilizes your emotions, and allows you to lead yourself with confidence. Kate Hastings Podcast  Mental Health Coach   

Often, we don’t realize how much our words matter. The way we speak to ourselves, how we speak to others, how we speak into our future—our promises, commitments, and daily conversations—all make up our word. Without language, who are we? This isn’t just about keeping promises. It’s deeper. It’s about how you show up in the world, how your integrity shapes your character, and how your word defines your reality. When you honor your word, you build a life of authenticity and power. Authenticity means being true to who you really are, even when it’s hard or unpopular.Character is the habits, choices, and morals that make you who you are. Integrity is staying true to your principles, even when no one is watching, and always choosing to do what’s right, even when it’s tough. _________________________________     Experience the Future of Health with Mission Med+ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and eff

In a world that constantly promotes instant gratification and success, many of us find ourselves chasing happiness. Whether it’s through career achievements, material possessions, or social approval, we’ve been conditioned to believe that happiness is the ultimate goal. But here’s the thing—happiness is fleeting. It comes and goes based on external circumstances. That’s why we often feel like we need to keep reaching for the next thing, never truly satisfied. The reason we chase happiness is that we confuse it with contentment. Happiness is an emotion, sparked by a particular event or accomplishment. On the other hand, contentment is a state of being, grounded in peace with where we are and what we have—without giving up the drive for growth. However, one of the fears of pursuing contentment is falling into complacency, the trap of becoming stagnant and losing the desire to push ourselves forward. But true contentment doesn’t mean giving up on ambition or settling. It means balancing gratitude for where you a

Focus, Discipline, and the Power of Choice  We all have the same 24 hours in a day, but how we use that time varies depending on our priorities, responsibilities, and tasks ahead. Whether you're a CEO, parent, business owner, or juggling it all, your focus is the compass guiding your productivity. True focus isn’t passive; it’s an active, deliberate effort. It requires consistency, discipline, and a clear vision of your goals. In a world of constant distractions—emails, social media, and notifications—it’s easy to lose focus. But remember, scattered attention leads to diluted efforts, making even the most ambitious goals seem out of reach. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast  Mental Health Coach    ____________________________________   Experience the Future of Health with Mission Med+ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As a valued listener, you can enjoy an ex

Success is often seen as the result of extraordinary efforts or dramatic changes, but the truth is that it's built on the foundation of consistency, not extremes. While extreme efforts may yield quick results, they are often unsustainable and can lead to burnout or failure in the long run. Consistency, on the other hand, is about showing up every day, putting in the work, and making steady progress. It's the small, daily actions that compound over time, leading to significant achievements. By focusing on consistency, you build habits, develop discipline, and create a solid framework that supports your long-term goals. Consistency also cultivates resilience and perseverance. When you rely on consistent effort rather than extreme measures, you become more adaptable and better equipped to handle setbacks. It allows you to maintain momentum even when the results aren't immediately visible. Success isn't about how intensely you work in short bursts; it's about how consistently you apply yourself over time. This st

Courage is a learned skill—you’re not born with it. It’s like a muscle you build over time by exposing yourself, putting yourself out on a skinny branch, and pushing through tough situations. Courage doesn’t mean you’re fearless or delusional; it means you feel the fear and do it anyway. It’s about stepping up, even when you’re scared, because fear will always be a factor. Every time you face your fears and push through—or don’t—you’re reinforcing either your confidence or your weakness. You’re proving to yourself that you can handle whatever comes your way, and in doing so, you build trust, consistency, and discipline. And when you act with courage, others notice. Your courage lights the way for others. The more you practice courage, the braver you get. Facing challenges head-on builds resilience, grit, and confidence, so when life hits you hard, you’re ready to bounce back or handle the situation. Courage isn’t just about big, heroic acts. Sometimes, it’s as simple as speaking up, confronting a hard convers

We've all been there, trying to fit in or win someone’s approval, but when you live for the acceptance of others, you end up losing yourself in the process. I’ll dive into why we crave that approval and how it can turn into a trap that pulls us away from who we really are. We’ll chat about how our upbringing and life experiences—like childhood trauma or bullying—can shape this need to please others and how it can lead to living a life that’s not really ours. But it doesn’t have to be that way. I’ll share some thoughts on how to break free from people-pleasing and start living more authentically. If you’ve ever felt like you’re stuck in a cycle of seeking validation, this episode is for you.  Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast  Mental Health Coach      _________________________________________________   Experience the Future of Health with Mission Med+ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient

Have you ever wondered why you sometimes sabotage your own success and happiness? In this episode of "Overcoming Self-Sabotage & Control Issues," I explore the underlying fears and behaviors that might be holding you back. From procrastination and negative self-talk to perfectionism and imposter syndrome, we’ll uncover how your values, habits, and subconscious mind influence your actions and well-being. Self-sabotage can manifest in various ways, including behaviors that harm your mental health and relationships. These actions are often driven by deep-seated fears like fear of failure, success, the unknown, change, rejection, and not feeling good enough. I’ll share insights on how to identify and break these patterns. While control can offer a sense of predictability and stability, it can also limit your potential. In this episode, we’ll delve into the role of control in self-sabotage and discuss ways to shift towards empowerment and self-leadership. Tune in for practical tips to transform your mindset, o

Your level of commitment defines you. Before building anything new, address what’s holding you back. Identify what you're currently committed to that's causing you to fail. You can't commit to something new while tied to the old. We can't build new discipline if we're disciplined in the wrong areas. Values need to be aligned correctly, and priorities must be set right. Commitment means sticking with your goals, values, and responsibilities even when things get tough. If you're not committed to yourself, you're committed to others, which is dangerous. You begin to live for others, mistaking busyness for progress. If what you’re doing isn’t yielding results related to your aim, you’re off the path. Being committed to yourself allows you to be committed to others and show up for them. Phenyx Fit Mental Health Coach    _____________________________ Experience the Future of Health with Mission Med+ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassl

Starting at day one is something we all experience, but in today's society, we often forget that. With the constant influx of comparison and the paralysis of fear, it's easy to lose sight of the importance of beginning, especially when faced with fear, anxiety, and imposter syndrome. Fear is built into our biology to keep us alive and safe, but when it creeps into the wrong areas of our lives, it hinders us from taking action or putting ourselves out there. Many people look at day one expecting the final success chapter, but that’s not how life works. Often, people either have an oversized ego or an unhealthy one. An unhealthy ego is full of pride, fear, entitlement, and comfort. A healthy ego says, "I can achieve excellence, I can pursue greatness, and I am worthy of success no matter the cost." There is a cost and payoff to everything in life. The cost of not starting is an unlived life of fear, weakness, and unfulfilled potential. Potential is the capacity to develop into something in the future; qualities

It took me years, but I am now confident in the things I'm not good at. When you don’t own your weaknesses, something else takes ownership over you. For 30 years, I believed I wasn’t smart, lovable, or worthy. I was strong in all the wrong areas, like people-pleasing, self-isolation, and suppressing emotions. These weaknesses tricked me into thinking I was a good person, but I was actually enabling harmful behaviors. Accepting my weaknesses as weaknesses was the turning point. I was a high-achieving, people-pleasing, co-dependent woman who thrived in chaos and pain. Pretending your weaknesses aren't there or masking them only weighs you down. It's hard not to live up to your potential because you're afraid to take the first step and look foolish. Reality check: we were all once beginners. I mess up all the time, especially with numbers and reading things backward. When we focus too much on our weaknesses, our strengths also become weak. My weaknesses no longer stop me because I own them. I learn, I grind it o

Pain, whether physical, emotional, or psychological, often leaves deep wounds that can shape our lives in significant ways. However, these wounds can also become sources of immense strength and insight. Healing isn't easy, and it takes a lot of strength—the right kind of strength. I used to be strong in all the wrong ways, tolerating abuse and being a people-pleaser. True strength comes from being authentic and courageous. In this episode, I'll talk about the importance of recognizing our wounds and how they shape our identities. It's about letting go of survival tactics and becoming our true selves in order to shift that into wisdom.  I know that many people get stuck on their healing journey because of fear and old habits. "Transforming Pain: Wounds into Wisdom" is here to help you break free from those patterns. I'll share stories, insights, and practical tips to help you embrace your pain and turn it into wisdom. Phenyx Fit | Kate Hastings Podcast | Mental Health Coach | WEBSITE:  ____________________

rue discipline is rooted in consistency and flexibility. Life is unpredictable, and when I am rigid in my thinking, behavior, and emotions, I stifle my growth. Adapting to new circumstances, scaling down when needed, and changing my approach are crucial for maintaining discipline. I focus on setting realistic, manageable goals that allow for consistent progress. I aim low, hit it, and keep building. This approach has taught me to view setbacks as feedback rather than failures. Great things aren't built overnight; they take time and adaptability. High expectations on an inflexible foundation will always crumble. My journey has been about learning to adapt to cope and ultimately thrive. I used to adapt to abuse, high stress, and what others expected of me, leading to burnout and self-sabotage. Now, I teach the importance of adaptability for mental health and sustainable success. It's about adjusting to the right things and avoiding black-and-white thinking. As Max McKeown said, "Adaptability is about the powerf

Wounded feminine energy can show up as feeling like a victim, experiencing powerlessness, or perceiving yourself as weak. It may involve manipulation, being guarded, withholding affection, and displaying neediness. Shame and a sense of never being enough can drive you to overdo things, constantly striving to prove your worth. This wounded energy can lead to over-sensitivity, difficulty regulating emotions, and a toxic ego, making you aggressive, combative, and overly opinionated. Understanding the natural energies within us is essential. Feminine energy is about receiving and being, while masculine energy is about doing and acting. Recognizing and balancing these traits is the first step toward healing and embracing a healthier, more empowered self. It's important to balance masculine and feminine energies, knowing when to be assertive and when to be nurturing. True femininity starts from within. It’s a mindset, a way of being, and an outlook on life. It begins with how you treat, love, support, and connect w

In this episode, I dive into the nitty-gritty of self-trust, which is so crucial for personal growth and well-being. Trusting yourself means having confidence in your abilities, judgments, and decisions. But let's be real, why is it often so tough to trust ourselves? What behaviors are secretly undermining our confidence and integrity? I’ll unpack the foundations of self-trust, like self-reliance, self-integrity, self-honesty, self-compassion, and self-confidence. These are the building blocks that help you trust yourself more deeply. I'll get into the common culprits that destroy self-trust: self-sabotage, perfectionism, seeking external validation, neglecting self-care, negative self-talk, and ignoring your intuition. These behaviors can really erode your sense of self-worth and make it hard to trust your own judgment. I'll also touch on factors that influence self-trust, such as fear of failure or rejection, low self-esteem, and past trauma. These issues can create barriers that make trusting yourself feel

Jealousy is a rollercoaster of feelings; it's a complex emotion—suspicion, fear, anger, bitterness, resentment, you name it. But at its heart, it’s about something we want or feel we’re missing. It's a fear of abandonment rooted in lack and low self-esteem. It’s a signal that there’s an unmet need or desire in our lives. We often block these feelings with fear and comparisons, feeling like we don't measure up. Whether it's comparing ourselves to someone else’s success or feeling envious in relationships, jealousy can pop up everywhere. It’s often tied to feeling insecure or not good enough. But here’s the good thing about jealousy: it can be a clue that points us toward our true desires and dreams. In this podcast, I will talk about how jealousy shows up in different parts of our lives—from sibling rivalries to work competition to romantic relationships. I'll dive into how it’s connected to feelings of lack, grief, and low self-esteem. And I'll look at how these feelings can make us feel anxious, emotionally