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Jesse Itzler (@the100MileMan) is a powerhouse of boundless energy with a rigid discipline for time management who has never missed a day of work in 25 years. Still, he hired a Navy SEAL to help him up his routine's game and then wrote a book about it -- efficient!The Cheat Sheet:Loyalty is a rare quality in business today; Jesse tells a story about a now-famous former intern to demonstrate why it's still important.You can achieve more than you believe -- when you think you're done, you're only 40% done.Sometimes it pays to get your foot in the door first and figure it out later.Why is a big breakfast the least judicious meal of the day?Don't forget to make fun a priority!And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/jesse-itzler-the-100-mile-man-episode-466/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely

Adrienne Dorison (@adriennedorison) ditched over $45,000 in student debt in less than six months; follow her advice here and achieve your own financial freedom.The Cheat Sheet:Your beliefs about debt -- and your credit score -- don't (and shouldn't) define who you are.Having an attitude toward consumer debt as a normalized facet of modern living makes a lot of us suckers.Why is talking about sex less taboo than talking about money?Learn why creating an emotional attachment to money by using cash instead of credit is a good thing.What is a zero-based budget?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/adrienne-dorison-self-mastery-over-debt-episode-465/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit me

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #38! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:Is it possible to get out of the friend zone when you've been there since the game began?In science, we must remember that correlation does not imply causation.Here's why you shouldn't get testy when someone you're hitting on "tests" you.We usually talk about good habits to cultivate; here are some bad habits to avoid.Even good advice for someone dealing with a wayward family member is better with Bacon -- Caleb Bacon!Bars and clubs seem to be where the action is, but where can a straightedge guy meet women who don't drink?How do you respond when someone tells you something you already know?In this video, Jordan talks about how we process input from other people through our own emotional biases and how that leads to anxiety and depression -- and what we can do about it.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop

Bobby Umar (@raehanbobby) believes we can change the world by recognizing the power of connection originating within and embracing our own leadership. He specializes in turning lost leaders into thought leaders.The Cheat Sheet:How does someone become a "top tweeter" like Bobby Umar?What is a "lost" leader?If you don't like what you're doing now, how do you figure out a direction you will like?Vulnerability can be an empowering and inspiring way to connect with people.Why should every single person blog or keep a journal (even if it's private)?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/bobby-umar-network-anytime-episode-464/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jeff Goins (@Jeff Goins) transitioned into his own dream job as a full-time writer; now he helps others overcome common myths and misconceptions about the journey so they can find and answer their own callings.The Cheat Sheet:Everyone has a calling -- how do we use our own life lessons to identify and follow that calling?Discovering what you were meant to do will probably surprise you.Why does fear so often keep us from taking risks?We're born knowing how to dance, but we learn shame.Learn how to make yourself more afraid of not trying than failing.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/jeff-goins-how-to-find-your-calling-episode-463/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/a

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #37! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:How does a fixer successfully date a complainer?What do you do to rekindle the spark in a 15-year marriage?In order to be at maximum productivity, when is the right time to wake up every day?How does someone with severe hearing loss communicate with confidence in the dating world?Does the phenomenon of "bed death" necessarily signify that your partner's cheating on you?Do you have memories of people who truly changed the trajectory of your life? Sometimes it's worth your time -- and theirs -- to reconnect and thank them for the influence they've had on you.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-37-the-lady-doth-protest-too-much-methinks/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in

Dr. Chris Donaghue (@ChrisDonaghue) is one of only a few hundred people in the entire world certified as a sex therapist, so you'll want to hear what he has to say about the myths of sexual dysfunctions, accepting your desires (even if they don't align with societal expectations), and how to develop healthy sex and dating habits.The Cheat Sheet:Cultures that embrace sexuality have lower rates of teen pregnancy and STDs, and pornography-tolerant societies have lower rates of sex crimes.What constitutes healthy sex?Believe it or not, there's no right (or wrong) way to have an erection.Is sex addiction a myth?The concept of gender "norms": we're doing it wrong.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/chris-donaghue-sex-outside-the-lines-episode-462/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it!

Anese Cavanaugh (@anesecavanaugh) knows what it takes to make "busy" beautiful. She helps people and companies unlock leadership potential, create meaningful impact, and enjoy themselves while doing it.The Cheat Sheet:Is the way you're "showing up" helping you create the impact you want?Contrary to popular belief, it's not merely the leaders who set a company's culture -- it's every single person in that company (from the CEO to the janitor).What is the IEP Method?Can you stand to have a presence reboot?Learn the five-step formula for creating intentional impact.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/anese-cavanaugh-contagious-culture-episode-461/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit m

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #36! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:We get listener feedback about how to deal with someone who laughs awkwardly at inappropriate times (from FMF 35).Are you blind to the attraction signals that potential romantic partners are trying to throw your way? We talk about how to pick up on them extensively in the AoC Toolbox, but here's some short-form advice in the meantime.You don't have to be a fashion plate to dress appropriately for life's banquet without breaking the bank. Here are some tips to cover the basics. (Also see Indochino.)Now that he's trying to get out of his own shell, one of our Art of Charm bootcamp veterans is having trouble dealing with his shut-in best friend/roommate who prefers to remain a shut-in.Being lousy at remembering names, faces, and conversational context is a problem you can overcome -- Jordan is proof! The keys to your kingdom may just be locked in

Stephen Mansfield (@MansfieldWrites) strives to inspire men to form a Band of Brothers around themselves to help them perfect noble manhood in their lives.The Cheat Sheet:Learn why most men in contemporary society don't have a best friend.Why does Stephen believe that men need an older brother figure?What is a Free Fire Zone?Discover why assembling a Band of Brothers keeps a man on course to become great.Learn how to build this Band of Brothers.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/stephen-mansfield-building-a-band-of-brothers-episode-460/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Duana Welch (@duanawelch) is known for applying social science to real-life relationship issues and is the author of Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do, the only book that applies science to your love life from before you meet until you commit.The Cheat Sheet:Learn the four Attachment Styles and what they say about you and your relationships: Secure, Anxious/Ambivalent, Avoidant/Dismissive, and Avoidant/Fearful. How can you change your attachment style if you want to, and why do some opposites get attracted even though they're dead wrong for each other?You should be pessimistic about being single instead of being in a relationship because it’s probably going to kill you faster than being in a relationship.Married couples live with a much longer time-horizon than cohabiting couples.Science is about odds, not about certainty.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/duana-welch-science-based-dating-episode-459/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, ple

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #35! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:What is the function of self-deprecation when striking up a new acquaintance, and how can you make people comfortable enough that they don't put themselves down while still valuing yourself enough not to do it, too?It's great that you're making positive strides toward changing your own life for the better, but how can you draw out your recluse friend and share the good vibes, man?When you have a great relationship with a significant other, it would be a bonus if your mother approved -- but it's ultimately not a necessity. (And if your relationship with your mother is also great, then she'll understand this -- even grudgingly).You could always answer your boss' awkward laughter with, "I'm funny how? I mean, funny like I'm a clown? I amuse you? I make you laugh?"When the other person in a relationship says that they need "time," should you wait

Bob Arno (@bambivalent) is a professional pickpocket who uses his powers for good. How? Find out in this episode of The Art of Charm!The Cheat Sheet:How does someone without a criminal background become a pickpocket?What are the psychological differences between a mugger and a pickpocket?Why do pickpockets tend to spot law enforcement before law enforcement spots pickpockets?What kind of shoes should you wear if you don't want to get marked as a target for pickpockets?How should you behave if you catch a pickpocket in the act?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/bob-arno-pickpocket-king-episode-458/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hugh Culver (@HughCulver) teaches us how we can think better, plan smarter, and act now on what really matters by developing Hero Habits.The Cheat Sheet:The first secret of success is to learn failure is temporary.Which pain are you more willing to endure: the pain of discipline, or the pain of regret?Habits are not created in 21 days -- habits are created with rewards.Modifying good habits to suit certain situations is better than abandoning them. Example: Hugh has a workout that he does when he's traveling that's shorter than his regular workout -- but a shorter workout is better than no workout at all.Learn how fast switching to curiosity can help you avoid the habit-crushing negativity of self-condemnation by examining the "why?" behind occasional lapses in discipline (and learning from them).And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/hugh-culver-hero-habits-episode-457/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is wh

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #34! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:How do you deal with an overwhelming sense of envy that springs up whenever you encounter someone with more talent, better looks, or some other perk of an imagined "good life" that you feel you'll never experience? (Depending on your situation, therapy might be one way to address it.)A besieged Syrian under fire loves his country and doesn't want to leave; he writes in for practical advice from us and friends of the show who have experience surviving in war zones. Marine Sean Rafferty was kind enough to offer some of his best tips.An Art of Charm boot camp veteran sees his old friends in a new -- and unflattering -- light since returning home. Is he just a jerk, or have they always been negative, self-destructive, and unpleasant to be around?Are you more fun when you're single?A nice guy posits, as many nice guys before him: why do girls only

Lewis Howes (@LewisHowes) discusses his new book, The School of Greatness, and its framework for achieving real, sustainable, and repeatable success.The Cheat Sheet:What is a lifestyle entrepreneur?While interviewing successful people, Lewis Howes found eight common themes that they tend to share -- he calls them The Eight Principles of Greatness.Greatness looks different to everyone, but it's rare that anyone ever achieves it by accident.What is your dream? Are you striving to realize it, or are you hoping it falls in your lap by sheer luck?What do you do when your failures become bigger than your vision?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/lewis-howes-school-of-greatness-episode-456/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming!

Kimberly Seltzer (@SeltzerKimberly) gives us her five-step process for finding a therapist who is right for you.The Cheat Sheet:We all need help from time to time; there's absolutely no shame in seeking therapy -- just as there's no shame in consulting a tutor if you need help getting through trigonometry or organic chemistry class.Finding a therapist is like finding a dentist or any other professional who will have a meaningful impact on your life. You want to make sure you have a comfortable relationship.How do we begin the search for a good therapist?Here are five steps you can take in preparation for finding the right therapist.Something a lot of people don't know: if you have insurance, it likely does cover some degree of therapy and overall mental health care. Contact your representative for specifics.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/kim-seltzer-how-to-find-a-therapist-bonus/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a r

Alex Kouts (@akouts) returns to The Art of Charm to talk about how to get hired at a startup (and if the startup life might -- or might not -- be a good fit for you).The Cheat Sheet:What is a startup?How does a startup find a sustainable product/market fit?What kind of person chooses the potentially unstable startup life over the safer options their parents keep nagging them to consider?The startup life is not a get rich quick scheme -- if you choose it, you'll probably work harder than you ever have before (but with the potential rewards to match).Why aren't you getting any startup job offers even though you've submitted your resume dozens -- or hundreds -- of times online?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/alex-kouts-getting-hired-at-a-startup-episode-455/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTun

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #33! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:Sometimes your partner will complain just to vent about something that's bothering them, and other times they want legitimate solutions to their problems. How do you tell one from the other?Emotional conditioning can be a powerful force. A listener with a PhD in psychology chimes in about some advice we gave in Fan Mail Friday #31.Is tragedy a prerequisite for success and wealth, or can normality ever hope to compete?What happens when you can talk the talk to find a partner, but your skills lack in the sack?Immigrant insecurity is a real thing -- and it comes with a whole tapestry of negative feelings about self and society that can be hard to overcome.Contrariwise is a real word, and lack of vulnerability might be what makes your attempts at a long-term relationship so...vulnerable.True success needs no comparisons.Have any questions, comment

Mark Manson (@iammarkmanson) is the author of Models: Attract Women Through Honesty, and he blogs to an audience of millions about psychology and personal development.The Cheat Sheet:Love is not enough; people prioritize love over other more important values, such as self-respect, trust, and boundaries.The relationship scorecard is toxic habit 1, where people feel as though they are always "owed" things by their partner.Boundaries basics: taking responsibility for your own thoughts/emotions and expecting your partner to take responsibility for theirs.World travel is both empowering and limiting; you gain new perspective, but it limits your ability to form commitments.Realizing that everything you do doesn't matter is a good thing, because it means you no longer have any excuses not to be who you wish to be.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/mark-manson-unconditional-communication-episode-454/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and wri