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We’ve said it many times but never really focused on it — the fantasy of D/s, kink, and BDSM can’t match the reality. That’s not a bad thing, unless you convince yourself you’re failing... The post Fantasy vs Reality in D/s appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Most of us have heard the cliched advice, “Never go to bed angry!” Everyone has their own opinion and experience with arguments in relationships, including those late-night disagreements. We try not to go to... The post Going to Bed Angry appeared first on Loving BDSM.

You’ve heard us call BDSM, power exchange, and the kink life a “journey.” And yes, it’s become cliche, but that doesn’t mean there’s not some truth to it. This week, we’re talking about why... The post Why It’s a Journey appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A conversation with a kinky friend of ours prompted this week’s topic. That person stayed in a crumbling relationship because they thought they were being “too picky.” We disagreed with that person completely. But... The post Being “Picky” About Your Partners appeared first on Loving BDSM.

It started as an offhand idea John Brownstone threw out right before Christmas, and then we ran with it. It’s been years since we did any BDSM checklists, so we recorded ourselves doing one... The post Re-Doing a BDSM Checklist appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Okay, so Q&A episodes might be our way of getting out of thinking about a topic, but it’s the last episode of 2020, and we thought it would be fun, and we needed something... The post Another BDSM Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

It’s no secret around here that we work from home and we work together. We talk about it a LOT and use it as examples in a lot of conversations about our power exchange.... The post Navigating Our Power Exchange as Business Partners appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Have you ever looked back on a break-up or a big argument with your partner, and thought, “I knew something was wrong.”? Yeah, that’s hindsight for you. But what can do to avoid only... The post What We Can Learn from Hindsight appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We do this every year, and every year it’s a whirlwind. This week, we’re sharing our favorites from all the toys we used in 2020. Why? Because we love masturbation, sex, orgasms, and sexual... The post Our Favorite Sex Toys of 2020 | Kinking Up the Holidays appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Back in episode 13, we shared how we handle money within our power exchange relationship. Over the years it’s changed a LOT. So we thought we’d revisit the topic to share those changes. In... The post How We Handle Money in Our D/s Relationship: An Update appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We received a fascinating email about a promise made in a D/s relationship, and it got us thinking about the promises we’ve made and how we feel about “promises.” So let’s talk about it!... The post Making Long-Term Promises in D/s Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In this week’s episode, we take a listener question about BDSM collars and turn it into a larger discussion on compromise (yes, we’ve done that episode before). The dynamics of the question posed got... The post Deciding When to Compromise in BDSM and When Not To appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s episode was inspired by a recent public display of kink that went viral on Twitter and created a big conversation online about what’s acceptable and what isn’t in public. We have thoughts,... The post Public Displays of Kink appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Is there a difference between a kink and a fetish? What is that difference? Does that difference even matter. This week’s episode is a loose conversation to explore the definitions of those two words... The post Kinks vs. Fetishes appeared first on Loving BDSM.

It’s here! It’s here! Not just a special Thursday podcast but John Brownstone’s new shop: The Kinkery! This episode ran longer than we intended (typical, lol). A big portion of this episode is us... The post Special Episode: Introducing the Kinkery appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’ve talked about this in different episodes in the past, but it’s time to give it a standalone episode. Whether in an established power exchange relationship or meeting a new partner, not every kink... The post When Your Kinks Don’t Align appeared first on Loving BDSM.

It’s the start of October — aka Kinktober. We thought it would be fun and appropriate to talk kink. We’re going in hot with a big (and sometimes heavy) topic: edge play, danger, and... The post Understanding Edge Play and Risk in BDSM appeared first on Loving BDSM.

While we don’t get into all the causes for shame in this episode, we also understand that it’s a heavy topic. Feel free to ignore or come back to this one later, if needed.... The post Dealing with Feelings of Shame appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We had a rough weekend in our personal lives so took the easy way out for this week’s podcast episode. We asked y’all for questions on Instagram (at that handle Kayla hates). And y’all... The post BDSM Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’ve mentioned in multiple episodes some of the problems and challenges that happen in any relationship when you’re a “fixer” (as we are). This week, let’s talk about it in more detail! In this... The post On Being a Fixer in a D/s Relationship appeared first on Loving BDSM.