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There are multiple ways of talking about submission, power exchange, and service (non-sexual and sexual). In this week’s episode, we take inspiration from a workbook by Luna Carruthers entitled Submissive Reflection: A Journey of... The post Reactive, Proactive, and Anticipatory Service appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s episode was inspired after we went on multiple rants about how much 2020 sucked, and someone said, “Uh, didn’t you buy a house this year? It can’t all suck.” And that’s when... The post Letting Hope and Joy Shine In When You Can appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s episode is a hot mess, y’all. We turned on the microphones even though we had no clue what we wanted to talk about — which we’ve maybe done once or twice in... The post A Chaotic Ramble: Celebrating 5 Years of Podcasts appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We seem to be on a roll turning old YouTube trends into podcast episodes. Yes, it’s a little strange, but it’s also a lot of fun! This week, we asked our Instagram followers to... The post Assumptions About BDSM, D/s, and Kink appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Part of being in a D/s relationship means working as a team, helping each other build something together. But sometimes, as individuals, we go through tough times and there’s no easy “fix” for it.... The post Feeling Helpless When You Can’t Help Your Partner appeared first on Loving BDSM.

John Brownstone was feeling under the weather late last week and into this week, so we took the week off from recording a podcast/live streaming. Instead of missing the week, we decided to share... The post Ranking Our Kinks appeared first on Loving BDSM.

If you see “tease” and immediately think “kinky fuckery fun,” you’re not alone. And yes, we talk about that, but we also talk about teasing as part of the relationship and how (some) kinksters... The post Teasing and Being Teased in D/s Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM.

One of the universal experiences is feeling overwhelmed. We all may handle it differently, but at some point, the feeling hits. This week, we talk about it in three common areas of D/s relationships... The post Feeling Overwhelmed in Your D/s Relationship appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Right after we decided to make this week a question and answer episode, we thought of other ideas (funny how that works!). We received more questions than we wanted to answer in a single... The post Answering Listener Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM.

No real tips or advice in this week’s episode. We just needed space to be able to say that we’re not always okay (even though we’re doing FINE!!) and we wanted to make that... The post It’s Okay to Not Be Okay Right Now appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’ve talked about the importance of compromise before but always as part of other discussions — on teamwork, goal-setting, and disagreements. This week, we give it an episode all its own. Yes, compromise can... The post Compromise in D/s Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM.

For the final minisode (for now?), John Brownstone and Kayla Lords are together, sharing bare-handed spanking tips. This episode assumes you know the basics — connect bare hand to bare butt. After that, what... The post Podcast Minisode 12: Bare-Handed Spanking Tips appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’ve talked about mental health and D/s relationships before. And Kayla is fairly open about her mental health in nearly every episode. After a recent bout of anxiety and depression, we’re talking about how... The post How Kayla’s Mental Health Makes Us Feel appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s minisode was inspired by how hard I roll my eyes when I heard about a “real” Dominant or a “true” Dominant and what they supposedly do or don’t do. Instead, let’s talk... The post Podcast Minisode 11: Things Good Dominants Do appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Your kinky boundaries and limits (hard and soft) can change at any point for all kinds of reasons. So let’s talk about it. In this episode: Black Lives Matter — donation, resources  Thanks to... The post Changing Boundaries and Limits appeared first on Loving BDSM.

It’s easy to feel like every submissive in every D/s relationship crawls or kneels, in their kinky fuckery or as a sign of submission. This isn’t true for a variety of reasons, including because... The post Podcast Minisode 10: Alternatives to Crawling or Kneeling appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’ve talked about mindfucks a lot over the years, but we’ve never devoted an entire episode to the topic. That’s about to change! In this episode: Black Lives Matter — donation, resources  Thanks to... The post Mindfucks appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Part of this week’s episode will sound similar to last week when we talked about gratitude. Why? Because one of the things you should say regularly in your D/s relationship is “Thank you.” But... The post Podcast Minisode 9: Things to Say in Your D/s Relationship appeared first on Loving BDSM.

There’s the fantasy of our BDSM life or power exchange relationship, and then there’s the reality. When our expectations aren’t realistic, we spend our time disappointed or disillusioned. In this week’s episode, we talk... The post Managing Your Expectations in Your D/s Relationship appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Gratitude is a big deal to both of us. It helps keep resentment at bay and makes it easier to take care of each other, even in times of stress or when we just... The post Podcast Minisode 8: How to Show Gratitude appeared first on Loving BDSM.