Dudes Spankin' Dudes

Jaden, founder of Whappz and co-founder of Hot Seat Retreat, is back for another episode as we all prepare for Bad Ass Weekend (bawevent.com) in Georgia in October. And Scott announces plans for a spanking party at the Cleveland Leather Awareness Weekend (CLAW) event (clawinfo.org), which will actually be taking place in Los Angeles this November on Thanksgiving weekend. Stay tuned for more details. We’ll also be announcing registration for Hot Seat Retreat 2022 very soon. In “Real Dudes Spanking Real Dudes,” Scott and Jaden tackle the problem of dudes that are not actually real on hookup sites and apps. There’s been a rise of scammers using our favorite fetish platforms to try to weasel private information and money out of you. We talk about tools that help you make sure your dudes are really real, and how to make sure dudes you try to talk to recognize you’re also a real dude and not a scammer. In “The Fantasy Life of Spanking”: Wedgies! Wedgies have always been a fringe kink on the scene that has combine

Greetings dudes! Scott takes a step away from podcast episodes to record a special segment on spanking basics, inspired by seeing a bunch of fresh faces (and butts) coming into the scene post-COVID. This is intended to be a sort of “evergreen” podcast episode that can be searched for and shared with other dudes who are having fantasies about spanking and are wondering what to expect. Music: Vivera / “I Don’t Give a Damn” (Instrumental Version) / courtesy of epidemicsound.com

Just a quick message to let y'all know that the L.A. Moonburn m/m spanking parties are officially back! The next party will be on Saturday, July 3, from noon-5 p.m., at the Threshold club in North Hollywood. (Their site is here: threshold.org) Vaccinations are mandatory to attend. Scott will be celebrating his 50th birthday, so be sure to give him some licks!

J.R. (a.k.a. Bossman) returns to the podcast after giving Scott’s ass its first post-pandemic beating. We discuss what that was like and how to ease yourself back into pain play if you’ve taken, like we have, 14 months off from the scene. In the “Real Dudes Spankin’ Real Dudes” segment, we talk about how rebooting your butt and your BDSM interest is an opportunity to perhaps experiment in other types of impact play and expanding your horizons. We discuss the ins and outs of flogging, punching, and face-slapping. And we discuss the state of events and the spanking scene (Hope to see you all at Bad Ass Weekend) as the world slowly starts to reopen. More on Bad Ass Weekend here: bawevent.com More on San Francisco’s spanking party here: https://sanfranciscomensspankingparty.com/ More on CanSpanks here: https://canspanks.wixsite.com/canspanks/foxhaven

For episode 36, Dudes Spankin’ Dudes Co-creator Croup/Soup Goblin/Brian returns to chat with Scott about furry culture, what it’s like to be a furry, and about bringing the spanking fetish to the furry community. In addition, Bad Ass Weekend is on schedule for October, and Scott reaches a birthday milestone and offers up his ass for punishment. In Real Dudes Spankin’ Real Dudes, Croup talks about what furry culture is, how he developed an interest in it, his unicorn “fursona” Inarog, and how it all relates to spanking. In the Fantasy Life of Spanking, furry fantasies are an excellent way to explore unusual or wild ideas about spankings. Scott explains how he made a “fursona” of his own, a hippo named Brody, to help explore his fantasies of heavy duty play and other forms of BDSM, and how he actually helped Scott branch out into new areas of kink! More info on Bad Ass Weekend here at bawevent.com

Finally, the caning episode! With the assistance of British guest Harrison, we talk about the well-known, well-worn British love of caning this episode. The Real Dudes Spankin’ Real Dudes section discusses caning techniques, things to do and not do, and what a caning feels like. The Fantasy Life of Spanking section discusses the British schoolboy fantasy, some of the history of caning in schools, and most importantly, how to bring those fantasies to life. Also, Scott memorializes another prominent members of the dudes spankin’s dudes community who passed away in December. And we take a question about what implements you can use if you can’t make a lot of sound. If you want to reach out to Harrison or check out his spanking videos— Twitter: https://twitter.com/hotspotharrison Clip store: http://clips4sale.com/studio/160647

This is not a full podcast episode, but sadly, a short message informing everybody that Hot Seat Retreat for March 2021 has been cancelled. We're making initial plans to return to Palm Springs in March 2022 and some sort of virtual event to take its place. Listen for more details.

This episode begins with some sad news for our listeners. Frank, a.k.a. “Big Daddy Vegas,” who was the guest for episodes 13, 14, and 16, has passed away from Bulbar ALS, also known as Lou Gehrig’s Disease. Scott opens with some warm thoughts about a close friend. Our guest for this episode is James AZ of Southspanking.com, and that’s what our “Real Dudes Spanking Real Dudes” segment is about. SouthSpanking is a great social media platform for dudes into spanking, and if you’re not already on there, you should check it out. If you’re missing all the hot spanking smut you used to see on Tumblr, SouthSpanking has you covered. In the Fantasy Life of Spanking, James is in a domestic discipline marriage where he’s living out a very common fantasy—the weekly review discipline session. If you’ve ever fantasized about being in a relationship where you are on a regular discipline spanking schedule, James talks about what it’s like to live it out and what dudes should think about before they pursue it. Check out Sou

Scott is joined this episode by Isaac (izkboy on Whappz and SpankThis Hookups), a trans dude from New York who is new to the spanking scene but managed to get some action in before COVID-19 shut everything down. (FYI, Bad Ass Weekend for October has been cancelled.) In the Real Dudes Spankin’ Real Dudes segment, Isaac talks about the mostly very positive experiences he has had joining the spanking scene as a trans dude and has tips for everybody. In The Fantasy Life of Spanking segment, Isaac talks about his childhood fantasies of having older brothers (nine of them!) to bully him and give him spankings and how that translates into adult spanking fantasies. Special shout-out here to the “Brother in Charge” series at Straight Lads Spanked for anybody looking for spanking porn that can help scratch this itch. And we take a question from a possible newbie to the spanking scene who worries he may be too old, especially as a bottom. Don’t worry! We’ll get you a sore butt! As soon as this stupid pandemic is ove

Doug (from episode 30 about Hot Seat Retreat) is back to talk some more. He and Scott and Jaden worked on a great video to hopefully keep all you dudes entertained during our shared Coronavirus Lockdown, featuring interviews with guys involved with Sting, SpankThis, Bad Ass Weekend, and others. Check out the video at Hotseatps.com. In the Real Dudes Spanking Real Dudes segment, Doug shares what it’s like to be married to another spanking fetishist, how their relationship works, how they negotiate play with other guys, how they handle issues, and how they keep their fetish interest fresh. It’s a useful discussion for anybody thinking that they might want to settle down with a spanking partner some day. In the Fantasy Life of Spanking, Doug reveals that he lives out a very common spanking fantasy: Being punished by a personal trainer. Yes, he over the past several years has been literally whipped into shape. He talks about how he got started and what people should think about before they actually try to get a

Scott is joined this month by buddy Mike, who was his next-door neighbor at March's Hot Seat Retreat. In the Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes segment, Mike is a big fan of self-spanking, and in a time where we shouldn't be out trying to hook up with each other, no matter how badly we need a spanking, Mike has tips on applying heat to your own seat. In the Fantasy Life of Spanking we talk about fantasies about real life "accountability" spankings and punishments. How do you know you really want to be spanked for real-life reasons and how is it different from just wanting to get spanked. Mike explains. Oh, and speaking of real-life spanking accountability, check out the Dudes Spankin's Dudes Twitter feed and weigh in on how much Scott should have to paddle himself for his terrible, terrible quarantine Mohawk: https://twitter.com/DudesSpankDudes

Hot Seat Retreat in Palm Springs has come and gone and was a wonderful success (with a few things we'll need to hammer out in future retreats--and there WILL be future retreats). Scott and Jaden are joined by Doug, the guy who actually came up with the idea of putting on a new spanking event in Palm Springs, and we talk about how things went and what we learned. Also, a short discussion about fetish play and the coronavirus. In short, treat social distancing seriously. We have members of the spanking community who are in risk categories because they're older or HIV positive. If you want to know when Colby Jansen's spankathon video is set to come out, follow his Twitter feed: https://twitter.com/COLBYJANSENXXX And keep an eye out the official Hot Seat Retreat website. We're already hammering out the dates for next March!: https://www.hotseatps.com/

It's our last podcast episode before Hot Seat Retreat in Palm Springs in March. Jaden joins yet again with friend Anthony. In our "Real Dudes Spanking Real Dudes" segment, Anthony talks about his first experiences attending fetish events. He went to Bad Ass Weekend for the first time last October and Mid-Atlantic Leather for the first time in February. With Hot Seat Retreat just around the corner, we discuss a number of tips to make your first time at a big fetish event more successful. In our "Fantasy Life of Spanking" section, Anthony and Scott share a love of fantasies and stories that revolve around the use of spanking machines. We talk about what turns us on about the sadism of automated punishment. And maybe it doesn't have to be just a fantasy?

Jaden is back with another spanking buddy, Kevin, here to talk about their fun time at Mid-Atlantic Leather (M.A.L.) in January. Speaking of which, in the "Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes" segment, M.A.L. got some negative publicity from a young gay conservative at the Washington Examiner who thinks that fetish and leather play makes the LGBT community look bad. Scott, Jaden, and Kevin discuss the problems with his opinion piece, which you can read here: https://www.washingtonexaminer.com/opinion/dcs-degenerate-leather-weekend-annihilates-gay-progress In the Fantasy Life of Spanking, Kevin and Jaden discuss what it's like to start filming your own amateur porn. If you're interested, there's a lot of fun to be had. And Hot Seat Retreat is just a month away! There's still time to register here: https://www.hotseatps.com/

What better way to celebrate ringing in the new year with a discussion of Adult Baby/Diaper Lovers (Or ABDL) and their connections to the spanking scene? Scott is joined by regular and Whappz co-founder Jaden and his buddy Richard, a member of both the ABDL and the spanking scene. We discuss what the two communities have in common and the opportunities for daddies out there in the spanking scene to find some guys in some firm need for discipline. In other news, Camp Red Tails is back on for July! And Jaden and Scott give the latest update on how things are going with Hot Seat Retreat in March. For more on Hot Seat Retreat and to register, visit the site here: www.hotseatps.com/

Jaden is back to join Scott as we announce some big news: The launch of Hot Seat Retreat, a new spanking weekend event planned for March 5-8, 2020 at CCBC resort in Palm Springs, California. Scott and Jaden go over what prompted them to launch this new event and want to encourage all y'all to come on out. Also: Unfortunately, Camp Red Tails this summer is in trouble; RedSpankScott is now also HotBotScott when he's feeling like a bratty bottom, and Jaden and Scott go over their participation at the 10th Anniversary of Bad Ass Weekend. For more on Hot Seat Retreat and to register, visit the site here: https://www.hotseatps.com/ If you want more info about CCBC, the host resort, visit them here: https://www.ccbcresorthotel.com/

For episode 25, Scott is joined by the long-awaited straight dude! Cutter the Sourpatch Kid, who is on the board of the L.A. BDSM society Threshold, joins Scott to talk about why he likes spanking other dudes, the right way to approach heterosexual guys if you’re interested in spanking play with them, a bunch of things you SHOULDN’T do when approaching hetero dudes, and what fantasies straight dudes do and do not have. More about the Threshold Society here: https://threshold.org/

Scott is joined for the latest episode by J.R., whom listeners know better as Bossman. Yes, the guy who beats Scott's butt on the regular stops by for a chat. And maybe a threat or two. In the Real Dudes Spanking Real Dudes section, J.R. talks about his membership in Avatar, an L.A. club that teaches men how to engage in safe BDSM play, including spanking. We discuss how the Internet and the rise of millennials own interpretation of leather and BDSM culture has changed the way we look at the scene and how these organizations are adapting. Avatar's Facebook page can be found here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/AvatarclubLA/ In the Fantasy Life of Spanking, Scott and J.R. respond to some messages to a young newbie top in the spanking scene who is afraid to actually get involved because he's worried about his heavily sadistic fantasies. We talk about how it's actually pretty normal to have extreme and even nonconsensual fantasies. What matters is how you adapt those fantasies into safe and consensual play w

Some good news to start. The Los Angeles Moonburn spanking party is back at it's old location at Threshold at the familiar day and time (the first Saturday of the month from noon-4 p.m.) Scott explains the details. Then, Scott is joined by David and Bruce, two of the organizers of Bad Ass Weekend, the all-male weekend spanking gathering held in Augusta, Georgia. This year marks the 10th anniversary of the even, and David and Bruce explain the amount of work that goes into pulling this all off. This year's gathering is from Oct. 17-20. Scott is again planning to be there. Get more information here: https://www.bawevent.com/

Jaden is back to let us all know that his spanking app Whappz is now available for Android devices, yay! And Scott updates on what's going on with the L.A. Moonburn parties. In the Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes segment, Jaden talks about the work that goes into hosting private spanking parties, and what you'll want to keep in mind if you're thinking of having some of your own. In the Fantasy Life of Spanking segment, we talk about the spanking erotical legacy of Cliff's Spanking Central site, which has ceased production of new movies but is still around and you can still join and download past videos here: http://spankingcentral.com/ And we take a question from a listener wondering how much he should "act" like he's struggling as a bottom, even when he's not.