How To Love Your Body

Welcome to How to Love Your Body on Today’s episode we are going to be talking about how to tell if you are listening to your body or listening to your head. There are so many tiny nuances in IE and this is one of them. This is actually a really important distinction between the two. Yes our body and our brains come together and make decisions - so really we are using both when choosing what we want to eat.  But if we skip our body's input when choosing food that is when we most likely hear “I’m so full, why do I always do that, I’m allowing all food but this doesn’t feel good.” Of course there is nothing wrong with any of that - you can be full, it’s okay if you “do that”, and it’s also okay not to feel good - yeah it’s not comfortable but it doesn’t mean you're horrible and a failure.  Lauren's story:  So we talk about this often but really how this came to be is that I experienced this first hand just a couple of nights ago- I kinda had an off day with eating, I ate enough but it just wasn’t as satisfy

Hello and welcome to How to love your body, welcome to our first episode of 2021! Today we are talking about new year’s resolutions why we keep doing them even when they don’t work and what we can do instead! 1. We’re sold the idea of a fresh start when the calendar turns to January, we think things will be different this time, the things in our life we don’t like will shift and we will be new people! (Also being told that weight loss is life changing doesn’t help) The first step here is just realizing this isn't true. The best way to do this is to look at your own evidence. How have the new year’s of your past been? Were they profound shifts that gave you a new life every year? Probably not. … And there isn’t something you haven't figured out yet that will make it different. It’s just that a change in the calendar year doesn't actually have an effect on anything at all. If you want to make changes in an area of your life, just do it when you want to do it. No need to wait for new years. This just leads to

Today's episode is a replay on Improving your body image. We go through the different areas of body image and many tips on how to work through the struggles. If you want to specifically work on body image we tackle this in our app called The UnDiet Collective.

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - on today’s episode we are going to bring it back to the basics and talk about What is Intuitive Eating? We want to share the 10 principles with you that were created by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch - These are amazing principles! We also want to share that there is more to these principles in this work. In the work that we do at the body love society we use two terms, UnDieting and intuitive eating. In essence they’re really the same thing, getting away from dieting and listening to your body so you can take great care of yourself without the focus being on weight. At the core it’s really about thinking in a new way that is based on science, compassion and sustainability. A life of wellness that isn’t fuelled by diet culture’s obsession with thinness. The reason this is important work is because it can be so easy to live in diet culture, diet decade after decade, have it not work long term, feel like a failure and keep going around and around in the diet cycle without e

Welcome to how to love your body, on today’s episode we are talking about nutrition knowledge. One thing people comment to us often is “shouldn’t people still know about nutrition though? Isn’t it important to know what’s in your food etc”? And in theory yes that would make sense. But let’s look at how things are right now. As a dieter how much nutrition “information” do you have? Do you know a lot about food, what’s “healthy” and what is “best” to eat? And how has that been for you? Has it helped or just complicated things and made it so confusing? If you think you need to teach a dieter or past dieter anything about nutrition you haven’t been a dieter. We know TOO MUCH! We know about calories, macros, what’s healthy, best options, ingredients to avoid, ingredients to add….. And it’s brought us here. To a place where we can’t just eat, everything is a mathematical and nutritional equation. A lack of nutrition information is not the problem. If KNOWING what were supposed to eat fixed things we wouldn’t

On today’s episode we are going to be talking about how to avoid the New Year, New You diet talk and not get sucked into the messages about losing the “quarantine weight for 2021” and all that BS. People already have a lot of feels around 2020. It’s be a rough year. And yes, many people have already shared that it’s been even harder with food and body image because of quarantine, stay at home orders, etc - being totally out of your normal routine. When you aren’t used to being home all day it definitely can bring up a lot of food and body stuff. And even if you haven’t been home all day because you’ve been able to work as an essential business / reopening of businesses - food and body image are still a challenge of course!  We want to shed some light on this topic because you better believe that diet culture and all people who have a business rooted in diet culture will be coming after everyone now that the new year is right around the corner. They will start to bring up pain points such as “the quarantine

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - today we are talking about a concept that was created by Byron Katie - it’s all about questioning our thoughts and figuring out who we would be/ what would we feel like without the thoughts that cause us misery and suffering. This relates perfectly with our thoughts about food and our bodies.   It’s about questioning these thoughts and asking yourself if they are true. A big reason humans endure so much suffering in their thoughts is because they think things “should” be a certain way. It’s most likely because we were taught it should be this way or that the person next to you is doing something so you think to yourself that it should be this way for you too. This happens in all areas of our life - by this age I should have this and be this … I should look this way, I should eat this way, I should, should, should… it’s all a bunch of shoulding on yourself -- so how can you stop shoulding on yourself?    Let’s dive into a few common thoughts that may hold you back from tr

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - On today’s episode we are going to be talking about why balance isn’t the answer. It seems to be a common misconception you can stop dieting and just be balanced - what a healthy and sensible answer to our food issues! This actually is just another way to control. When you think balance you may think - never eat too much or little. Instead of restricting the dessert, allow yourself to have a little. Eat but make sure you “watch what you eat.” It may not be extreme restriction because you are allowing but it still is all about limitation - and limitation - and forcing yourself into a perfectly balanced place will still cause bingeing. Obsession. And we can bet there isn’t that feeling of freedom around food. Trying to force yourself into balance isn’t food freedom - it’s dieting. Diet culture is getting sneakier -  they sell a “gentle” diet and call it balance. If humans could just limit what they ate and find “balance” - that means diets would work - but scientifically we

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - on this week’s episode we are going to be talking about bingeing. Bingeing is a very common side effect of dieting - why? The number one reason is due to restriction. Where there is restriction - either mentally or physically - the bingeing will persist. We know, because we were in the restrict/ binge cycle for 10 years each.  Before we dive in - we wanted to share with you about a couple exciting things we have coming in early 2021. One of those things being our documentary called Behind the Before and After and another being a giveaway where you could win one of 3, 6 months of free UnDiet support. We’ll share more about it later on but to To learn more - go to bit.ly/btbagiveaway  Okay, here we go - let’s talk about bingeing and how we can help.  Things you may have heard that will help with bingeing: -Eat MORE food  -Get foods that you restrict/ binge on IN the house  -Eat whatever you want, when you want  -Allow all food and give yourself unconditional permissio

Welcome to another episode of How to Love Your Body -- on this week’s episode we want to talk about a question that does come up often - which is when a family member, partner, friend, etc  doesn’t understand what IE is and thinks it’s BS - that if you aren’t dieting, you don’t care about your health. Before we dive in - you can download your free worksheet that goes along with this episode at bit.ly/understandingundieting We’ve been taught that if we aren’t constantly pursuing weight loss, eating “healthy” and restricting “bad” food then we don't care about our health - this could not be farther from the truth!  But this is most likely the information that your mom / loved one has ingrained in them too. These aren’t your own thoughts - and they aren’t your mom’s either. It’s important to realize this is a societal issue and not a personal issue. This can make it a bit easier to be compassionate to those around you even when they are pushing against intuitive eating/ the non diet approach.  So when you s

Welcome to this week’s episode of How to Love Your Body. A reminder to Please rate and review if you find our podcast helpful in any way! Today we are talking about a very common fear and that is keeping food in the house (anything “bad” of course). Why do we fear this? Because we feel out of control around food, like we cant be trusted around it, we just think about it until we give in, say screw it, eat it all, and then promise we won't buy it again. Is this food addiction? Is this a lack of willpower? How come other people can keep chips in their pantry and ice cream in their freezer and it’s not gone in a day? They can just eat it in a normal way? There must be something wrong with me, I’ll just have to control myself forever, I’m just different and that’s the way it is. This is not food addiction, has nothing to do with willpower and you aren’t different - you’re just restricting. Dieting, trying to be “healthy” or good, eating in moderation, being sensible, WW, or Keto, whatever you call it - not

Welcome to How to love your body today we are sharing 10 important steps you need to take to get closer to food and body freedom.  This episode is brought to you by our 10 steps closer to food and body freedom guide you can grab it at bit.ly/undiet10steps 01 Diet Mentality This is number one for a reason. If you only do one thing in this work, be aware of and work on shifting the way you think. How we THINK about and what we believe regarding food and our bodies is what creates our unhealthy relationships with these things. The first step is to be aware of our thoughts and beliefs. Diet culture is so ingrained in us that we assume what we think is true and “just the way it is”. But it isn’t. Guilt around food isnt natural. Picking your body apart isnt natural. Wanting to control the way your body looks isnt natural. Counting calories and following food rules isnt natural. That is all learned. Working through the diet mentality means being aware of these thoughts and beliefs, unlearning them and th

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - On today’s episode we are going to be talking about how to RIDE OUT 2020-  We know this year has most likely been really challenging - for many reasons!  Even though we are nearing the end of this crazy year - we also know it may feel like it’s never going to end. That these last few months feel like an eternity.  You are ready to get this year over with and move on into better times ahead - we get it!  This is why we want to help support you in riding out the rest of 2020.  It’s important to do things that you can “land safely” on when things are feeling overwhelming / (insert word) - taking care of yourself, finding ways to cope, finding healthy distractions ...will help you get through the days ahead that feel hard.  Here are some tips/ practices you can add into you life that could help get you through these times:  Physical:  Stretch/ Breathe  Move your body  Gentle movement is great if that’s what feels good  More strenuous movement is great if that’s what fe

On today’s episode we are going to be talking about the stats behind why people say diets don’t work but also go into the emotional side of dieting - because even with these groundbreaking stats proving that diets don’t work (and they are actually harmful) - dieting is still a multi billion dollar industry with lifelong returning customers.  Facts don’t sway people; emotions and beliefs do.  We, as a culture, believe that thinness is better and should always be the goal, that weight loss is about health and to think otherwise is promoting an unhealthy lifestyle and body size. NO amount of statistics showing this isn't true changes anything. Our beliefs and emotions around weight prevent us from taking statistics seriously. Let's dive in and show you what we mean.   STAT: 95% of diets fail and most will regain their lost weight in 1-5 years Emotion: Some things that might prevent a person from accepting this fact and using it to decide what to do next (quit dieting), are the time and money already inve

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - on today’s episode we are going to be talking about how we practice wellness without the focus on weight/ how we practice wellness without the obsession. We share a lot on this topic because it’s the core foundation of our coaching and we thought it would be helpful to share specific examples in our lives - this is how we naturally live now - so we wanted to give some ideas to you or help you get a better understanding of what this wellness without the focus on weight could look like. A key pillar of having wellness without the obsession is separating weight and wellness, a great way to start doing this is to grab our free 33 page workbook called Separating Weight and Wellness. You can get this at bit.ly/wwworkbook The main point of this is that your health does not = your weight.  A little content warning:  we do want to share that this episode is more focused on wellness - you may be in a place to hear this or you may find yourself not ready - either way it’s okay! So

Today we are talking about wellness without the obsession. You can grab your free 33 page workbook to go with this episode at bit.ly/wwworkbook  This is the end goal of our work for the people that we work with. NOTE: This doesn’t mean we think that everyone needs this goal or should want this. This simply means this is our outlook and for anyone looking for a life that still has some attention to wellness but in an entirely new way with a new way of thinking - we can help! One vital part of attaining wellness without the obsession is separating weight and wellness. Why? Because if we still link health and weight in our minds it will be almost impossible to practice wellness while not focusing on weight which is a central pillar of wellness without the obsession.   There are 3 key ways you can unlink weight and wellness: Learn the science and research behind weight and health. Much of what we were taught is not based in science. For instance, BMI, which I’m sure we all know by now is not a reliable to

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - on today’s episode we are talking about a phrase that we learned from Bri Campos, a body image educator/ LPC  - follow her on Instagram at @bodyimagewithbri  So what does it mean to “sit in the suck”? Well - you may have noticed that this UnDiet work (intuitive eating, body image, body acceptance/ trust) can be hard. It is hard!  A few things that may happen when it gets hard…  When things get hard it can be really easy for humans to do anything to get rid of the uncomfortable feelings - to turn to coping mechanisms that may feel like distractions instead of processing and healing the emotions.  Another thing that happens - no shame or blame - but when it gets hard our brains can start to tell us this UnDiet work isn’t safe, it doesn’t work, etc and all the catastrophic feelings come flooding in - someone may consider going back on a diet because they need the control (false control that is).  There could be a bad body image day - where you are looking in the mirror an

Welcome to How to Love Your Body. On today’s episode we are going to be talking about how the fear of weight gain doesn’t actually control your weight (lose, gain, stay the same)- even though it feels like it does.  When we say, fear of weight gain, what do we mean?  It means:  -You are constantly aware of what food you are eating. If it’s “healthy” or “unhealthy.” -You always feel like eating food has a reward or consequence - if you eat nutritious healthy “light” food, you will be rewarded with weight loss (or at least not weight gain). If you eat unhealthy processed food / desserts / carbs etc then you face the consequence of weight gain.  -You make choices with the diet brain instead of your intuition.  -Even if you allow the food and you physically are eating it - you have mental restriction, meaning you have lots of shame, judgement, guilt, and a feeling that you shouldn’t be eating what you’re eating.  -There’s an undertone of fear, self hate, judgement, shame rather than love/ peace, self respe

Welcome to this week’s episode of How to Love Your Body, today we are talking about the common question we get: “But what if someone REALLY NEEDS to lose weight? What if someone is xx lbs, and they HAVE to lose weight?” NOTE: This is a fat phobic question but it is important to address why this question is so damaging in many ways for all. This question, or a version of it comes up a surprising amount.  It rears its head when we share that we advise people to not pursue weight loss (regardless of body size), that intuitive eating involves allowing all food, unconditional permission to eat and getting rid of all food rules. This is a MAJOR paradigm shift from diet culture which almost all of us came from. To hear the opposite of what we were always taught makes a lot of people uncomfortable EVEN if they KNOW dieting doesnt work. Theyve been at it for 20 or 30 years and it hasnt worked, its caused a lot of damage mentally and physically… but dont pursue weight loss at all? That seems crazy, certainly this

Welcome to How to Love Your Body on today’s episode we are talking about DIET BRAIN. This is the effect that being a dieter has on our brains and our thinking. If you already know that your thinking and mindset has been affected by dieting before we even get into it you're welcome to grab our 5 day UnDiet Mindset Boost at bit.ly/undietboost Let’s get started A little biology note before we get to our main focus, mindset and ways of thinking. When we restrict calories from our brain this leads to rigid thinking, creative thinking goes out the window and we cannot go with flow very easily. This makes so much sense to me because whenever I was dieting it was always so rigid, and honestly never very logical. Eat a piece of chocolate and screw it, may as well eat the whole cupboard. And I did this so often, how does any of that make any sense? I couldn’t be flexible with my thinking or see things that were staring me in the face - like I should not be obsessing over food this much and it isn't healthy to be d